Infertile and Catholic

Welcome Mint ice cream! We feel your pain! We will keep you in our prayers. Let us know how it goes. I wish we could have adopted more children. It is expensive, but worth it!!!

Fertility tip:
Husband & wife see a good Chiropracter. Subluxated joints can pinch off the nerves that exit the vertebrae. like if you kink a garden hose the water can't get through. If only half of the messages from the brain gets through to your organs, they won't function properly!

Also NFP (Natural Family Planning) works well with all types of cycles. It does NOT depend on regularity. It works for irregular cycles, breast feeding mums, and menopausal women too! With NFP you will know when you ovulate so you are sure to be trying at the appropriate time. Some women get tender/sore during ovulation, and actually avoid sex during that time because it's uncomfortable. so check it out!

Pope John Paul II Institute is a good resource.

Hi I just found this group. I have been trying to have a baby for two years. that's the bad news. my diagnosis is secondary infertility, which means that I have kids but now I can't seem to get pregnant again. Is it ok for me to be on this group? what I struggle with the most is that my husband and I intentionally avoided getting pregnant early in our marriage--yes we listend to all the secular advice to wait and enjoy ourselves--this is turning out to be the biggest regret of my life--b/c I could have had more kids if we had started our marriage off welcoming children and we did not. my husband is so disappointed each month, I feel like I am really failing him. and the doctor doesn't have any specific indications as to why I am not getting pregnant other than age. well I could go on but I won't.

Dear Amy 11215

Your story is a good example of the Dark night of the Soul. Total abandonment to God is a real struggle, but how liberating it is when you come thourgh it. Great story, thanks for sharing.

My husband and I did IVF before I came into the church. The church I was attending at the time didn't agree with IVF either because of the destruction of embryos that occurred. I was just miserable not being able to conceive. I was obsessed and literally felt like a failure because the infertility was on my end not my husbands. I didn't have a regular cycle so NFP didn't work for me at all. I even tried Clomid before and now I realize what a risky place we would have been in had that worked because my doctor gave it to me and never followed up with any ultrasounds to check for ovulation. I could have easily been one of those women pregnant with 6 kids at one time.
It's very hurtful to hear people who have never been in your position to tell you just to pray, or relax, or just adopt. You may mean well and in some respects you might be very correct. But when a woman's nature is screaming for a child because that is the instinctual desire God has put in us, and we are just unable to conceive it is devestating. If you are a woman and you read about the women in the Bible who begged God to open their womb, you can feel the pain they are having.
But the church is right about IVF. I had twelve embryos left over that we froze. There came a point where my husband and I could no longer afford the $1000 a year storage fee and we had to let them thaw. So now I am responsible for destroying 12 little embryos because of my impatience and not throwing myself totally in God's arms in trust. For those of you who are struggling and it is unconfirmed diagnosis like mine, I would suggest you check your diet. I am not saying this applies to everyone because I am very aware there are many causes of infertility. After I had given birth and gained a bit of weight and started eating more greens I began to ovulate normally. I have never had that before but I guess having kids made me change my diet to feed them properly and it worked for me as well. Also, I wasn't even expecting to get pregnant again so I didn't think about b.c. because I used to say I was built in birth control. I did go on to have a spontanous pregnancy because my body finally kicked into gear and I wasn't all stressed and obsessed at the time.
I am very blessed and I thank God for my children. But I put my needs and wants above trusting in God and we committed a great sin in destroying other lives along the way.
That is my story and if you are struggling and want to ask me anything feel free. I have BTDT.

Hello all,
My wife and I were married for 10 years and no children, then she had an adopted korean boy in her kindergarten class who wrote her notes every day. We had summitted our names to Catholic Social Services with no luck. So 0ne day she came home and asked if it was OK if we went overseas. I said of course ( sensing a door was being opened). We just celebrated our sons 20 th birthday. Once we said yes, and started the paper work, it took six months to get him...... and just before Christmas. Wow!! There are so many kids out there that need good parents. Remember our vocation is love.

I feel blessed to be Catholic. We followed the Churches teaching and used Natural Family Planning, so when we went to a Fertility specialist I brought my NFP charts which showed a 2 year history of my cycles. The Doctor got very excited, He said the information on my charts just cut off 12 months of painful & expensive testing!!!

Always think positievly.God have a different plan about you, infertile couples. May be you are selected by God ,to be a parent of an orphan child. To bring that child to the world of family life and relatives.

" For I know what my plans for you are, plans to save you and not to harm you, plans to give you a future and to give you hope." (Jeremiah : 29:1)

This group is for you if you've ever:

- had difficulty sitting near families with small children in church
- avoided Mass on Mother's Day and Father's Day
- felt out of place in church because you don't have children, even though you wanted them very much
- asked why God didn't let you get pregnant
- felt estranged from the Catholic faith/church because it is so focused on procreation
- find it painful to hear Bible verses about barren women conceiving and being fruitful and multiplying
- wonder why the Church prohibits artificial means of conception, or
- experienced estrangement from the Catholic church because of infertility

My husband and I have been infertile over 10 years and worked through many of these issues. We have come to the decision that our infertility will not cause us to lose our faith!

Welcome to this new forum. God bless you! He loves us just the way we are!