Good Grief

Kimberly,

You have my condolances. I know that is not much but at this point nothing is. I have just come back to this site after not being on the net for several months and I would like to share some thoughts with you.

I have been in a similar situation. As a teen and young adult, I fell away from the Church. I had what I thought were good reasons at the time. I married and had children. Not quite 3 years ago my youngest son was killed in an accident. He had never been raised to know God. He was not baptised. It was my fault.

There are 2 things that keep me from dispair. First is the Baptism of Desire which amounts to; if a person never heard of the Word but lives following the Law God wrote on men's souls, they will be saved.
[This theological statement is badly butchered, but it does get the gist of the concept]

The second is that God is Love. One writer, Andrew Greeley, describes Her as a jelous lover Who will cheat to keep her loves with her. My son was a wonderful boy and was turning into a wonderful man. Many people loved him. I can hope that God, whose Love is perfect, loved him also and took him to Her.

This is some comfort to me in the dark of the night. I hope it is a comfort for your grief also.

Go with God

Patrick

The 23rd Psalm is beautiful and graceful no mater how it is translated but for me, (and I know I am a heretic) I love the KJV translation. all the others see some how, .. off(?).

Patrick

hello there, I just want to agree with you about cemeteries. May sound silly, but they are one of the favourite places I like to visit. Nearly all my family and ancestors are buried in the little country churchyard in the village where I was born. Until quite recently I used to love going there and talking to them, and it pains me now that I am so disabled it is difficult for me to walk round there. It is on a hill on very rough ground and all the graves are higgledy-piggledy (if you know what I mean).
There is great comfort and peace there and I hope to join my family there one day. Psalm 62 I wish you peace and comfort in the loss of your mum. Blessings to you,

Hi Big D....Welcome here...I'm so sorry for your losses. It's interesting how you phrased that...that your emotional sufferings don't mean that you don't trust God....well put! I have often felt ...does this mean that God thinks I don't trust Him? I am not happy that you have suffered, but there is comfort in knowing we are not alone in our thoughts...largely why I started this group, so we could share. I have never had anyone to really share with ...other than my sister. And for most of my life, she didn't want to talk about my parents' deaths. I'm glad that you have come to join us...know that we are here for you, and praying for you, as well.

Rosemary,
Just wanted to say thanks for that. Its just beautiful. It inspired me to join and to write it out and put it in my bible. Thank-you!
Audds

I lost my husband to suicide 8 years ago, and yes, it's a grieving like none other. Our children still have anger issues, but have had some counseling (but not nearly enough, IMO). They are upset that I haven't held on to the anger as long as they have, and accuse me of not loving him, of being a bad wife, etc.

I did love my husband, and grieved terribly at his loss, and went through couseling myself. However, he was not my 'soulmate' (another sore point with my daughters) and I knew that I could go on without him.

(As a sad footnote, I did meet my soulmate, and we became engaged at Christmas, but he passed away at the end of August.)

There is an organization called AFSP (American Foundation for Suicide Prevention) that offers outreach and support.


Miz

This is really beautiful, thank you Rosemary.

Whatevergirl, Thank you for the welcome! I'm new here, and I wanted to share a little prayer I said as the sun was going down this afternoon.
Dear Lord,
Thank You for the sunset
The colors,
The way the sun shines in the clouds,
Thank You for the ability to see,
your handiwork in Your Heavens.
Amen


newbear

Rosemary, I'm so sorry for your pain...your sufferings. Please know you're in my prayers. I'm home from work today not feeling so hot, but I will come back later to give more...we are here for you. Thanks for sharing, I know that wasn't easy!

Thank you. I was "water" before I messed up the account that I could not log in.