Powerful Feminine Women

I'm muttering things to myself about "servant leadership". At this point, just muttering.
Feel free to mutter back.

Hi,
Someone just joined the group. We were six, now we are seven. I'm not sure who...

This has been a strange week for me. I more or less stumbled into a situation of counseling a young woman who was suicidal as a result of a rape that had occurred months earlier. I listened and was compassionate and gave advice and prayed. She is doing incredibly well. For me, it's like a whole new appreciation of myself as a woman woke up. Being feminine is not a curse or a restriction or something to be ashamed in, but a tremendous gift to others. Instead of dismayed at my limitations and weaknesses I can rejoice that God can pour His grace out through me. There is a power in love and compassion. I think we would do well to appreciate that God made us who we are for a reason, out of His love. For me it is as if I am waking and discovering I am a girl again, and that it is good. It's strange and exciting.

This is interesting. I will probably just lurk for a while, though.

Thank you Roselilly!

This is my reply to a question about a feminist Nazi woman:

Unfortunately, our society has trained women NOT to trust. We have been told that men are out to dominate, control us and use us as objects. We are taught to FEAR men not rely on them to protect us. This is how the devil has driven a wedge between the sexes.

Not only that, women are bombarded with advertisements constantly telling us we are not good enough, not valuable, and constantly degrading our intended dignity. We have been trained to protect ourselves from men (as though they are an enemy).

I did some feminizing training to re-feminize myself. This involved learning to believe that I was lovable, beautiful, worth protecting and being provided for and to be receptive to being served...just receptive in general. I also had to learn that I did not have to protect my self FROM men but be protected BY men. It was so hard to de-program myself. It was amazing. Once I made the shift, men are always doing things for me, helping me, defending me, etc. I really feel like a Queen and men really feel like heroes. Men seem to get so much satisfaction out of helping me, serving me and seeing me smile. They often comment on how much they appreciate that "I let them help me." because so many women deny them.

I had to learn that it was a man's desire and nature to be a Hero. I learned that in order for men to be my hero I had to let them take the stage a little. I had to learn not to steal their thunder by putting them down. It was the strangest thing for me to build a man up because I was afraid that if I did then they would think they were too good for me and stop helping me or abandon me. When in fact the opposite was true. The men became MORE loyal to me.

My fiance' wants to do EVERYTHING for me. Gosh, I wouldn't even have to leave the couch if I didn't want to. All he cares about is that I am happy. If I am happy then he feels like he is doing a good job. It's amazing what a man will do for a woman who thinks of him as her hero.

This is true feminine power at work.

I don't know that you can teach her this but fortunately there is a world-wide movement to regain a true feminine spirit of trust, peace, encouragement, surrender, and humility. I can guarantee you that Mary, the Queen, lived in such a way that she let her son Jesus be her hero. I will pray for her. I am sure she is probably miserable and frustrated as a femi-nazi. She is sacrificing what she really wants, which is genuine relationship and dignity, for domination, manipulation, and coercion.

This was an alternative response to a question about feminist nazi women:

She is mis-lead about the POWER OF A WOMAN. She thinks that domination is Power. The power of a woman is in her ability to secure relationships, peace, balance and bring forth new life. Your friend is actually a slave to her EGO (which is a masculine trait for protecting families). Ego's are used to separate, kill, and destroy. Now, this presence of ego does not get her what she wants such as, respect, trust, loyalty, or influence. She actually is defeating her own heart and violating her true feminine desires.

Women are graced with special abilities that are very effective (when properly used) to turning men into heroes. God made men to want to please a woman. Here is where a woman's power resides. INFLUENCE, not domination, not manipulation or coercion. Have you ever noticed how men like to show off in front of a woman? They put their best foot forward for her. If she approves, he feels great but if she doesn't he is disappointed. God gave us this influence to inspire men to become great. A woman of true feminine power can disarm a violent man with her vulnerability and need. I once heard a statement that said, "Men are either valiant or violent and a woman determines which one he will be." A good man is valiant when protecting and providing for those more vulnerable than him.

Now, hear me out. Ego, which is of a masculine quality, when present in a woman triggers a man into competition and violence (his instinctual need to protect and win). She makes demands, as though he is less than her, insulting him by not trusting in his goodness and desire to please her. This ends up in her getting hurt, which in turn makes a man violent and not valiant. On the other hand, take a woman who asks a man for help (even when she could possibly do it herself) and he comes to her rescue, helps her and now he is a hero!...and she gets what she wants.

A truly empowered woman knows who she is, the influence she has. She doesn't need to compete with men or other women to prove it. She rests in the power of her influence and in a positive way uses a man's desire to be her hero to make the world a better place.

I think more women should turn to our Blessed Mother for inspiration on how to be a woman. Hail Mary, Full of Grace.

"Mama Mary" as we have always referred to her as my children were growing up has been my rock. She along with Her Son has seen me through some of the rough paths of this life. I hope she will be there when I breath my last breath and take me to The Father. God bless!

- I was just preparing to answer that because gentle and quiet spirit is very precious in God's sight, but first I will want say dear Lady Love that your writings are wonderful full of incredible kind of spirit and love.



I read,
1Peter 3
3Do not adorn yourselves outwardly by braiding your hair, and by wearing gold ornaments or fine clothing;4rather, let your adornment be the inner self with the lasting beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in God’s sight.