adopted

I was adopted when I was 7 years old! I'll be 15 in 2 months! I was adopted from Russia. It's sad that they closed the adoption.

does anyone have information or has heard about the adoption scandal in Canada in the late 40's and 50's through to the 80's. it happened in orphanages through out Canada, it is refered to as the Duplessis orphans and butterbox babies. i was recently contacted by a person in Canada that has made some reference to this and is saying that the information I have on my adoption may not be true. There is a lot of press in Canada regarding this but not a lot in the US, it is has some very disturbing accusations about the Catholic Church during those times.

Miss Ruby-I am not qualified to give you direction. Speaking from my own experience, I do think a person needs to know that they were adopted. I was told when I was twelve. There will be a lot of questions, emotions will run high. The adoptee will need to know they were always loved. Its natural to want to know the details,the birth parents,etc...I would contact a case worker at catholic charties who works with adoptions and get some direction before I went to the church the father attends. You could contact the catholic archdiocese in your area for some advise, don't rush into this decision,pray and ask Mother Mary for help and guidance. She will not fail you!

Rodier

I have some questions that I need help with. A Catholic father was not a good dad and gave the child up when she was 4 he was 30. He signed papers saying he never wanted to see her again. Now that the child is grown he wants her back. She was adopted out and the family is crushed. He has lied to the child about what happened ( Mother has the court papers to prove otherwise). In the comandments it says not to covet, steal and lie. He is doing all of these in order to have this person in his life. The family is being torn apart. Should we go the the church he now attends and talk to the Father about this even though we are not catholic? We are in fear for the grandchildren. We really need your help.

There has been a lot of discussion regarding adoption of children to same sex couples. In Illinois its my understanding that catholic charities has suspended there adoptions and are appealing the decision that would make it illegal to refuse an adoption to a same sex couple. Is it better for the children to have a home with parents who love and provide for them? is being left in a foster care system until the right couple ( man & woman) comes along better in the long run? It would be interesting to hear from both sides. what are your thoughts/comments.
Rodier

ayoung,
I adopted a child 10 years ago from the foster care system. She is 16 now and we are going through a very difficult time. I wouldn't have thought this a couple of years ago, but the anger and resentment is so hard to deal with.

Hello--

I am not adopted. Before we were married, my husband adopted a child out of the foster care system. The child thinks that my husband is his father since he has known him since birth. I am the "wicked step-mother" and my stepson knows/remembers his real mom.

Just looking for some perspective on what he is going through. He stopped seeing his mom when he was 7. A few letters and telephone calls for awhile.

I have a hard time relating to the child. I am really trying to help him through a lot of his issues, but I am always concerned about whether or not I am helping him or making things worse for him. It would be nice to get some advice/perspective from other people who are in or have gone through the situation and had to deal with adoptions and step-parents/foster parents.

Thanks!

god bless your grandparents, my adoptive parents were up in age when i was adopted, it was tough sometimes to relate, but i had a wonderfull childhood,and it was great to be part of a family.

pretty cool fact... my maternal grandfather and step- grandmother adopted me. it was hard at first but once i got older and started to think about it i'm sooo extremly happy to have been given the life i have. they call me their special daughter. it makes me cry every time

before i decided to search for my bio parents, i spoke with my adopted parents about the idea. mom was very understanding, dad not understanding at all, i didnt realize at the time but looking back i am sure he felt rejected. but that was not my intention. i wanted to get some family history. did i look like my mom or my dad, are they healthy, and of course why did the give me up. everyone i believe wants to know they were born out of love not lust, often lust is the case though. looking back i would not have pursued the search. for me it was just alot of emotional bagage i didnt need. there is a reason in most states/countries adoption records are sealed. in canada only the birth mother can release any identifing information, i was glad i chose to go the right route through social services, no private dectives or stuff like that, i spoke through a mediator provided by social services and both are privacy was protected even though we exchanged a letter. of the many things that i did not consider, was the fact that maybe she never told anyone about the situation and had moved on, possibly got married and no one ever knew. that was her right and she deserved her privacy . one thing that i was glad to tell her was that i was greatfull i wasnt aborted, and that i was adopted by good people and have a good life. i think she was happy to hear that.
rodier