Praying for our Future Spouse

Today is Day 4 of our St Martha's Novena.

Reading this has inspired some fasting! Thanks guys!

Are you trying to find someone here? Sure looks that way.

I love the Everts, I follow them on both Facebook and Twitter and I own a few of their books. I love how they speak about chastity, it is so far beyond abstinence but most people just stick there. Plus I also love how they bring their points across.

My future spouse has to be himself, he has to be mature, he should love more God than me. He has to know how to survive alone, knowing that we are in the 21st century... he has to be funny, he has to know me. he has to be my friend. And the most important thing: I have to be in love with him and he has to be in love with me....

been alone all of my life, never been with a man ever and am so tired of being alone, took care of my mom for a good many years and loved her a lot, i dont regret a minute of being with her or giving her all of my time and energy and love and compassion. she past on june 07.

any how i am in a good place in my life to meet some one now and want to meet a great guy with a lot to offer, i think i have waited long enough for at least that much ?

i am now almost 40 and still have waited for the right man all of these years. i met a nice guy recently but i think he has to many severe problems and doesnt have much to offer me at all. i want some one who can offer me a good life and a happy one also.

Thank you for your kind prayers. We sure need them right now. Thank you for the congrats too. With God's help, it will go well.

Becca3

Julia

God knows how i've come across your question. But i honestly think your plan to pray (so much) for your future husband is the most beautiful jesture i've heard in a long time!! My heart's genuinely moved.

Please be patient with our Lord. I'm a 21 year old guy and was feeling pretty down that God hadnt produced a wee lady for me to fall madly in love with and marry. Instead of praying madly for blessings on my future wife, i was saying "Please God, make us meet today!".

I dont know why, but God eventually made me realise that she wasnt the problem.....i was!! When i looked at myself i suddenly saw the true picture that i was no longer the 'upright man' i thought i was.

When i was 17-18, i had dated a girl that had been my childhood sweetheart. One day she randomly left me for another guy - without explaining why. Trying to be "a man" about things i went on as usual. I focused on a music tour i was going on to america and life went on as usual.

In a few months my music tour came, i went, and came back home. Suddenly i had no distractions and COMPLETELY unravelled. I became very depressed for months. I remember going onto facebook and seeing that my ex was going on holiday with her boyfriend. She had packed boxes of durex into her case and tagged him on them. My heart just broke. My wee sweetheart was getting into impure things and loosing God. After months of depression i tried to commit suicide several times....and survived (thank God).

Seeing that i couldnt suffer much more, God sent a wee angel in the form of an old friend. She got me back on my feet (God bless her and her husband). I then went to uni and took a fresh start. At uni, God opened my eyes and i stopped praying for the sake of it and prayed because God clearly loved me and had set me free from my heartbreak (THANK GOD!!)

Fast forward 3 years and i feel like me again!! My results have gone up through the roof and the only thing i was lacking was a girl to love again.

As i said earlier, i've asked God for a wife many times. But he was pointed back at the final thing i need to brush up on. Quite embarrassingly i'd picked up the habit of masturbation whenever i went through my rough time. I used to think that that problem would sort itself out when i got married. But God rightly has said "no, no! If i am to give you the quality of woman you have asked for, i need you to be a quality man for her, and be in 100% control of yourself".

So i'm convinced my wee lady isnt far away. But i have one last mountain to climb before we can fall into each others arms. She's probably desparing that i'm taking so long....and it's 100% my fault.

Therefore, while i am struggling on. The thought of my wee woman praying for me like mad is SO powerful and moving. My heart rejoices at such acts.

So i beg you to continue your prayers for you future spouse. If he's like me, he's been through a lot - but your prayers make all the difference!!


May you find your love soon!

God bless!

Thanks for the response
! Its good to know Im not all alone out there!! Keep your head up also!!

That is what we are doing. It is more difficult for him at times, because he was previously married (the marriage was annulled) and obviously that is an aspect of marriage. He is trying to understand my fears, and my desire to wait and he does respect all of it but it doesn't make it any easier, I suppose that is why it is called temptation. We are working through it and praying all the time. Thank you for the prayers, they are appreciated.