That is a good question, Holly. Know first that you are nothing in the eyes of God and know then you are everything to our Lord. Hard to do, yes. The two thoughts seem to contradict each other, yet they compliment one another. When you discover that you are "nobody" you are on the road to being a "somebody" to our Lord and creator. "Cultivating" humility is a life long quest, and very hard to achieve. Suffering without complaining or blaming, is one road to follow. Giving one's self over totally to God is another path. Accepting that God's will be done, not mine. Reading and following the lives of the saints the best you can without recompense, recognition nor self-glorification will put you on the road to humility. Good luck and many blessings in this world of "me first."
Thank you to everyone who wished me a merry Christmas. I really thank you for it. I had a very good Christmas with my Grandpa and the rest of my family. I haven't yet seen my Mom for Christmas but I am going to try to meet with her sometime once the bad Winter weather ends.
Jeanne S, I am sorry to hear about your oldest daughter being a victim of sadistic ritual abuse. That is very sad. I will pray for her right now that she heals of her scars.