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Dear Agatina,
I am a widow, too. After a 50 year marriage, the loneliness is hard. But I am learning, and praying to Mary, another widow and mother. Prayers, elliepepin
Thank you Paul for getting back to me. You are definately in our prayers around here. My husband has been widowed two time, & myself once. So we can really understand. Being widowed is one of the most painful things I have ever been through. I was so mad at God! But I finally realized the He even understood me in that. Yes, I agree, God is the wrong person to pick a fight with. Your comment made me laugh. I so remember how mad I was at Him whom I love so much once again. We will keep you in our prayers & we look forward to your prayers. (I was so touched by some of your posts & I could feel your pain so strongly that I read them to husband - he is legally blind & can't do computer for himself - he agreed that he knew what you were feeling. The first time he was widowed he was young & there was a car accident. His wife, baby, & mom in law were all killed & he was severly injured & took months to recover. I felt he might really understand. )
Hello Agatina I don't know how I feel. I know if I don't believe in God that I'll never go to Heaven and that's where my Wife is and God is the wrong person to pick a fight with. But I can't help the way I feel. I'm hoping that soon I go back to Church and back to the grace of God. Keep Praying for me because I need a lot of that. Thank you and when I start Praying again you're be in my Prays.
My dear Agatina,
God bless your kind and loving soul, yet I must correct you on Godīs ways, he does not "tear apart" couples, he only knows when the cake in the oven is fully baked. some need more time than others, just like the ingredients are different. You are a very lucky person to have had a husband worthy of mourning, he left you with something so precious that you can't forget it.Cherish it and be glad in the memory of him. Consider that because of your experience you are now better able to comfort others. With God all things work together for good.
I love all of you and I'm kind of depressed & not posting. It was so nice to get the messages here. Husbands dementia is being called Alzheimers now. I'm not sure that's correct & I think a lot is due to his accident & brain surgery but whatever the reason it's progressing & for some reason I'm having so much trouble dealing with it.
I guess I need prayer for strength & patience. And I'm so sad.
May our dear Lord bless all who visit this site.
In Jesus Name,
Agatina
Hi Agatina,
Thanks for your thoughts. My husband has some mild dementia too so I know what you must be going through. My patience gets tried by repeating things over and over. I have to go to doctor's appointments with him so first, he goest to the right place and second that the doctor is aware of all of his ailments.
I never thought I would have to do this for my husband, but for a parent. It's so sad because he was a very intelligent man. He still has the urge to do things, but unfortunately his concentration is so bad he can't follow through. It's heartbreaking sometimes. However, I will be praying for you too!
