Dearest Cassie, what you say about John reveals that he knows you are good and don't deserve his treatment. He feels guilty, so in that regard the gift and letter are sincere, however he is still unfaithful.
Forgiving him lets him off the hook but makes him feel guilty. As a Christian what can you do but forgive him.
You have the right to tell him how badly it hurts you...just 'I do not like his continued actions' is a shadow of a shadow of how hurt you are on yours and your boys' behalf. In betraying you and the boys...for instance, what kind of message is he giving your boys!... of course he feels guilt, and so he should! He must face God with this if he doesn't repent in authentic form, not just with gifts, letters, and words. He has tortured you with this ambivalence for so long. May God to guide and help you, you wonderful woman. May God guide your sons to the best understanding of what husbands, fathers, and men should be
I'm happy about your news of your son and his family, and that Trevor John is baptized. What a joy for you!
Lord please hear and grant Cassie's prayers for her loved ones. And please flood Your graces on Cassie's son, his girlfriend, and their child.
Cassie, for us, there is now light at the end of the tunnel, thanks to God and for the prayers of my kind friends.It's been a very hard couple of years, but at least I find now I can sleep a few hours more most nights with some cause for optimism. It has been the hardest of many life-trials...but I know you have been though difficult trials too and I hope that there has been good resolution.
In the meantime my youngest son is getting married in January, which is a wonderful thing. They are very devoted to each other. My son's fiancée wants me to do the pre-wedding rounds with her, so that should be enjoyable.
Please God this will be a blessed year for us all. Love, Trishie
Cassie I hope and pray that your niece shows improvement soon. I was shocked to hear of her illnesses.
I had Scarlet Fever when I was a little girl of four.
I hope you are bearing up under everything. God's gentle blessings to you.