Re: same sex marriage
I think that your statement that his signature confirms the state’s approval of same sex marriage is significant. He is representing the state and not himself. I doubt that anyone who has been married in your county cares that he is the one whose signature appears on his or her document of marriage. I doubt that they even notice the name, let alone know whom it signifies.
Also I realize that saying that he “happens” to be the deputy county recorder is a figure of speech that we all use. But actually, he didn’t just happen to get that job. It sounds like it is the way he makes his living.
Personally, I would not be thrilled about having my name on the marriage documents of gays—nor anyone else who is not validly married such as the many divorcees on whose documents his signature appears. I think you need to let this one go.
Fr. Vincent Serpa, O.P.