Originally Posted by Joysong
Has anyone here been the beneficiary of this type of abuse and found that it actually strengthened them in virtue?
It is great to be vindicated by God and made more humble and forgiving through grace when persecuted. I heard a priest sum this up once by saying that "what the Gospel says really is true!" - i.e., that God will give us lots of graces and even fight our battles for us when we are being unjustly persecuted if we let Him and we trust Him. I have experienced that in small ways.
The thing is, I have also been the persecutor. It was always because I felt somebody had some fault that needed correction and I felt I
was the one to do it. When the scales fell from my eyes, it was very embarrassing - but I learned that, unless it is specifically made plain that it is my job to correct somebody (like if I was his job supervisor or something like that), that otherwise it is my job to bear with the faults (real or perceived) of others as patiently and charitably as I can. And that God is the one who corrects and He does it a lot better than I can.