Taking Care of Your Marriage

lifeisbeautiful · #1 Jun 1, '09, 2:04 pm

After reading kingJesus' thread on "Advice on loving your wife!" and after reading about domini canus and Sillara's vow renewal, I was wondering what kind of things you guys do to "take care" of your marriage. I have heard of couples that have a date night once a month, etc. I know a couple that a Mass celebrated for their anniversary every year. It can be casual every day things, it can be something you do weekly, monthly, every year.

Sillara · #2 Jun 3, '09, 8:05 am

Well, we just had our first date since Baby #5 back on Saturday. We try to go out twice a month when the youngest is big enough to eat food.

We also spend time in talking with each other every day. Not about "us" or anything, just talking about our interests. (Lately this has been the First Crusade.)

It is important to me to have some time with just my husband. I don't care what we do or where we go. I don't care if it's just a coffee out together or a walk in the park. I just want some time alone with the one whom I love.

Oh, and making love is very important.

djblasdell · #3 Jun 10, '09, 2:48 pm

In any marriage you will have ups and downs. And when you have lot of children it always seems like couple time gets pushed to the back burner, especially with a lot of littles in the house.

Early on it was harder, but once the children entered school we would go out for breakfast dates. Since we have older children now it is not too hard, they know that twice a month mom and dad go out and they are expected to baby sit for us. And no they are not paid, just part of being in the family. (After all I run them around to all their activies so they can take some time for me.)

We also enforce an early bedtime here, even for the teens. The 4 middles have to be in bed by 7:30. The two teens are in their rooms by 8:30 (they can read until 9). The two year olds are in bed at nine. Once naps are a thing of the past they are in bed by 7:30 too.

Once everyone is in bed it is time for DH and to connect. We talk about our days, watch a movie or tv show. Sometimes we even go to be early too.