Nuptial Mass - Kissing the Bride - Urgent - Page 2

rjs1 · #16 Aug 7, '09, 12:20 am

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Originally Posted by bpbasilphx

It's never been a liturgical act, for crying out loud!

Exactly!!!!!

marley333 · #17 Aug 7, '09, 3:57 am

When I got married we weren't sure whether we were allowed to kiss or not, it seems a bit weird to do something like that in God's house, and with everyone watching too! After we had signed the register my husband asked the priest if it was ok to give me a kiss, Father laughed and said yes it is ok. He is a very traditional priest and to be honest i was quite surprised that he said yes.

Phemie · #18 Aug 14, '09, 5:50 am

We married in 1975 and there was no kiss allowed. A friend of mine married about a year before I did and I remembered her mother's outraged protests to my mom "Have you ever heard anything more stupid -- Fr. won't allow them to kiss" so when I went to do my preparation it didn't even come up. We didn't have a Mass or even a Liturgy of the Word, just the exchange of consent and the blessing and exchanging of rings. It was over in minutes.

Personally, I just wish they'd all stick with the ritual as it's written.

daeve · #19 Aug 14, '09, 8:43 am

I was married in 1976 and we kissed. My sisters were married in 81 and 82 and they both kissed. I can remember weddings at which I sang in the 1960 where they kissed. We even have a photo from my parents' wedding in 1949 where they're kissing. Maybe it's a local sort of thing. The only Catholic wedding I've attended some where else was in Chicago and they kissed. We're a bunch of smoochers in the midwest!

Jacafamala · #20 Aug 14, '09, 8:49 am

I'm sorry, every time I see this thread it makes me think of Foreigner - Urgent

pickguard1 · #21 Aug 14, '09, 9:00 am

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Originally Posted by bpbasilphx

Kissing the bride is generally done after the dismissal (or at the EF, the Last Gospel, if read at a Nuptual Mass; some of the rubrics suggest it is not), or in any case, just before the recessional.

It's never been a liturgical act, for crying out loud!

My wife and I were married by an FSSP priest at an EF low mass. We kissed after the very end of mass (that is - after the Last Gospel) right prior to the priest and acolytes leaving the sanctuary. This was something we discussed with the priest beforehand - since it's not a part of the Liturgical ceremony (and definitely not a part of the Mass) it shouldn't really be inserted anywhere inside of it. But once Mass is over, there's nothing wrong with the newly married couple giving each other their first (hopefully of many) married kiss.

The priest didn't do any "I happily present to you Mr and Mrs so and so" type of introduction that is common at non-denominational/Protestant weddings, he just kind of gave us a nod that it was OK to kiss now, kind of a thing.

Discuss it with your priest, he'll know what is and isnt' appropriate. - Of course open mouthed French kissing probably isn't appropriate in a church ever, and we kept our kiss very chaste

pickguard1 · #22 Aug 14, '09, 9:07 am

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Originally Posted by kage_ar

It would seem proper for it to be done after the recessional, on the steps outside.

This would also be just as appropriate (if not more so) than kissing after the nuptial Mass inside the church as my wife and I did. I think the main thing is that it is not a part of the ceremony and should be reserved (if done at all - let's face it, you're probably gonna be kissing a bunch at the reception with all the glasses clinking

) for after the mass and ceremony.

If you really need a picture of the kiss - that can be done outside the church on the steps, too which makes a great picture anyway regardless of where it is.

I would say, don't lose sight of what is going on due to what is, in reality, a very minor custom. (which in it's current common perception - that is hollywood style - really isn't a Catholic custom at all.)

Bluegoat · #23 Aug 14, '09, 11:36 am

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Originally Posted by rjs1

We were not married in the Catholic Church but had a traditional Anglican Wedding years ago. In those days the "you may kiss the bride " novelty was unknown. The Bride and Groom did not kiss in church.

Mind you, in those days marriages tended to last a lot longer.

Today we seem to always go for the instant gratification, waiting is something not favored.

I was married in a traditional Anglican ceremony six years ago, and there was no kiss in it. Perhaps it bodes well - I hope so!

My husband did kiss me at some point shortly after the service was over, but it was spontaneous.