Re: waited till marriage - still waiting??
Have either of you spent any time praying in adoration? He may find peace and be able to sort out his feeling best during this quiet prayer time.
From what I am understanding, and maybe I read it wrong, if you 2 make love and you don't become pregnant then he is viewing that as a sin? That is just simple biology. You can't expect to get pregnant everytime. Does that also mean that making love during the 9mths you are pregnant would be sinful? God wants us to be together and to share ourselves fully with our spouses. The church only requires that you be "open" to life during marital relations unless you have a serious reason to use NFP.
Have you tried being the one to initiate?