Originally Posted by manualman
At the PERSONAL level, you are nearly correct: it's nobody else's business (besides GOD, whom you seem to have omitted in the post, at least). But your sentiment betrays a uniquely American error of excessive individualism in which we pretend that the aggregate sum of individual choices doesn't have COMMUNITY level consequences. Wrong. It does. Our culture is openly hostile to larger families and the reason for it is nothing short of diabolical. If you are taking my culture-wide general comments personally, please consider whether the problem might be on your end. I've taken significant effort to point out that generalities have lots of exceptions, and I'm hardly the Duggars myself (nor do I believe they are necessarily the ideal).
Btw, you undercut your own request for people not to make "snide comments" when you characterize mom's who have more kids than you as "baby factorys." Just which of us has made a ruder personal level comment here?
I have no issue with people who have large families. Our pastor has 7 kids. They are a wonderful, happy family. I have issues with people using family size to judge how good a Christian or Catholic someone is. If a family discerns that having lots of kids is their calling......awesome more power to them. If they discernthat a family or one- three kids is the right size more power to them. I really have no issue with the Duggars, it's their call as long as they can care for all their children. I guess I have not encountered hostility towards any size family really, except on this forum towards those who choose to have smaller families. We are immediatly assumed to be on ABC, and sinning or using NFP for what other deem the wrong reasons. It is the sin of presumption to presume you know what is best for another family without being involved in their decision process, and comes off oftern sounding like the only role women have in the Catholic Church is either to breed or be a nun.