How to deal with strict parents?
I've grown up with very strict parents, and I'm not sure how to cope. I'm 19 years old and they refuse to let me date until after college. I wasn't even allowed to choose my own college, since they refuse to let me live out of the house. I'm still not allowed to sleep over at my friends' houses or dorms (I have on some rare occasions, such as prom). I don't think I'm a bad child - I never partied or did anything bad, and even even if I tried, it would be impossible since I can't sleep over anywhere. I make good grades and I'm relatively focused and driven. I volunteer every weekend both in and out of my church (sorry it seems like I'm listing my resume). They look down upon my friends who have boyfriends, and get upset when I hang out with them.
I've tried to reason with them, but it seems to be impossible. I'm not enjoying my college life at all, especially since it's not a college I wanted to attend. However, they would never let me transfer because they see college only as a place of study, and enjoying it to be secondary. Of course people have told me to move out, but I don't have the money and my parents would look down upon me as the the most impractical and immature child if I were to take out a loan and move out. Living with them is not the main problem, it's trying to get them to understand that I'm ready to transition to being independent. I understand they have no ill intent and that they're not doing this to deliberately hurt me. However, I've definitely grown a resentment towards my parents, and I know it's not right since they've done so much for me paying for my college education and providing me with so many extra material goods. But it's really starting to drive me crazy. I've grown to be unhappy and discontent with my life, even though I'm so privileged. There's this great guy that I've gotten close to, and I'd love to introduce him to my parents, but I can't do that either. Everything is so frustrating. Any advice?
Sorry for such a long post. Thank you for taking the time to read this!
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