What exactly does "friend" entail/mean?

itullian · #1 Apr 12, '12, 7:15 pm

once you're a friend then what?

thanks

Bix · #2 Apr 12, '12, 8:00 pm

I have absolutely NO idea..

PM without being intruding??? No clue. I thought I would figure it out,
but happy to have friends!

Glad you asked!

triumphguy · #3 Apr 12, '12, 8:31 pm

The friend zone is not the potential dating/future mate zone.

irishOntarian · #4 Apr 12, '12, 8:55 pm

I suppose this varies between people, but I think friendship should be kind of like an extended siblinghood. What I see in many "friendships" is something that more resembles an acquaintance. When you're friends with someone, it means that you're becoming involved in their life, and having a real relationship with them. Remember, friendship is another sort of love, and it should bring people more together in a real, not just apparent way.

On the practical side, try having a coffee and a chat together

itullian · #5 Apr 12, '12, 9:01 pm

i meant on this forum.the friend request

PatriceA · #6 Apr 12, '12, 9:12 pm

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Originally Posted by itullian

i meant on this forum.the friend request

I don't get it myself. I've never seen an advantage other than a status symbol. And I mean on the forum, not in real life.

**catharina** · #7 Apr 12, '12, 9:14 pm

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Originally Posted by itullian

i meant on this forum.the friend request

Right.

It means the sun shines brighter.
You link with others with whom you share values/concerns.
It means whatever you wish for it to mean - that is, suit yourself.

stephe1987 · #8 Apr 12, '12, 10:24 pm

Friends are the family you choose for yourself. You hang out together, solve each others' problems, etc.

And actually, I am not against people being friends before they date. It's actually smarter to do that, because you get to know them before you date them. Once you start dating, kissing, etc. you become emotionally involved and it's difficult to break things off. Many people date for months, even years after they know deep down that the other person is not right for them (some even get married) because they are emotionally attached and/or don't want to hurt the other person's feelings. If you're friends first, you will likely come across any red flags within a year or two, and then decide if you want to date. And your spouse should be your best friend, so starting off with a strong friendship is an ideal foundation for a marriage.

**Dale_M** · #9 Apr 13, '12, 2:34 am

I vaguely remember once reading a moderator's explanation of what "friending" another member does here at CAF. After a bit of searching, I think I found the explanation.

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Originally Posted by Jo Benedict

Friendships link your profile directly to your friends' profiles and allows you both to follow each other's activity on the forums more easily.

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On your member profile, there's a box that says "Friends." That box gives you direct links to your Friends' member profiles. You then have easy access to send that person a private message, follow their posts (under "Statistics"), and leave them visitor messages on their walls. It is intended to be a convenience for people who want to more easily follow conversations they are engaged in with favorite members, but it could be misused. If there is misuse, please feel free to contact one of the mods for assistance.

http://forums.catholic.com/showthrea...ghlight=FRIEND

irishOntarian · #10 Apr 13, '12, 8:43 am

lol, two conversations going on here. Maybe we should start a new thread for real-world friendships

triumphguy · #11 Apr 14, '12, 9:02 am

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Originally Posted by itullian

i meant on this forum.the friend request

Oh that "friend" thingy!

I've got some "friends" on here but they never buy me a beer, or send me chocolates

Just don't press the "proposal for marriage button"!

TheRealJuliane · #12 Apr 14, '12, 10:24 am

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Originally Posted by triumphguy

Oh that "friend" thingy!

I've got some "friends" on here but they never buy me a beer, or send me chocolates

Just don't press the "proposal for marriage button"!

Am I your friend? I will buy you a beer, even if it's just a virtual one!

Wait, we don't have a beer-drinking smiley OR a chocolate-eating smiley??!!!

triumphguy · #13 Apr 14, '12, 10:36 am

No you're not, but you can be if you like

denitaA · #14 Jun 1, '12, 4:37 pm

And can friends "chat?" I don't see a "chat" section

**Dale_M** · #15 Jun 1, '12, 5:17 pm

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Originally Posted by denitaA

And can friends "chat?" I don't see a "chat" section

No, there is no chat section here at CAF. The Forum Administrator stated two months ago, in response to requests for chat, that due to insufficient resources there are no current plans for such a feature.

http://forums.catholic.com/showpost....5&postcount=13