Re: Trying to Return but Don't Think I Can
Have I got news for you! The confessor CAN’T force you to tell your wife because he cannot force you to break the seal of Confession. But even if such action did not break the seal, it would be highly inappropriate. Often an individual will want to come clean to ‘clear the air.’ But in reality, he just wants to make himself feel better. He is certainly not thinking of the pain this would cause his spouse. So your first worry is canceled--and so is your second.
You can return even if your wife is not ready at this time. It is quite possible that she could be impressed by the change that coming back to the Church has made in you. If you were not married in the Catholic Church, you will have to see your priest about correcting this. Put it in the Lord’s hands and stop worrying. You are in our prayers.
Fr. Vincent Serpa, O.P.