Originally Posted by medaroge
Hi everyone, I was received into the church this past Easter and would like my children to go to our parish school. Our parish asks that families sign a covenant to tithe 10% of their income in order for the children to attend the parish school.
My husband was not supportive of my becoming Catholic. We made an agreement between ourselves that I would tithe 10% of my income (a fraction of his) to the church. Now that I want my kids to attend the school, is that 10% of just my income ok? Does it matter that my husband is an atheist and non supportive of the Catholic? I am just trying to find any way for my kids to be able to learn and grow up in the Catholic faith.
You can't expect your husband to tithe 10% to something he doesn't believe in, unless he's an oddly generous soul.
Suppose your children attended a state school, and the principal expected the parents to give 10% to the American Atheists. Your husband would probably agree, but your response would be over your dead body.
I'd just give 10% of your income to the church. If you think you can afford more, considering you are a two income family, then fine. But you'd need to discuss it with your husband, as you came to an agreement.
I came from a Protestant background. At one time there was talk of double tithing in some circles (which to me had elements of boasting with hindsight - "Look how much I give!"), and I had a discussion with the pastor, including questions about before or after tax etc. His response was that you can't give 10% of what you haven't got.
You're the one going to the church, so you tithe the 10%. If your husband becomes convinced of the truth, he can tithe then.
And between you and me, I'll be surprised if all the parents tithe the full 10%.
Some of them couldn't afford to. I know that for a fact, as I do a part time job in a church parish (government funded project though) and also do a bit of work with Vinnies. Every year there's a family or two that needs help from the St. Vincent de Paul Education Fund to buy the books and uniforms, let alone tithe to the church.