Teen Premarital Sex Continued - Page 8

ArkansasMom · #**106** Jun 5, '12, 7:13 pm

I had a long talk with the GFs best friend from high school today. She knows both DS and GF pretty well. Of course, she told me what I already knew: GF is controlling, manipulating, and loves the challenge of 'getting the guy.' Then she becomes controlling and clingy. When GF found out that the high school friend texted DS warning him about GF and issues she has had, GF called high school friend, which made high school friend think that GF checks his texts.

Also found out DS and GF are sharing GF's bed, he's not in the basement. One last detail: GF's mom had her own live-in lover for @ a year, broke about last summer. There was a really bad divorce in our town about a year ago, involving people from our church who were well-known business owners in town, and their boys were in the same organization our son was in. We knew he had had an affair, but didn't know who it was. High school friend told us that GF's mom was the mistress, and the man in the couple moved in with the family for @ a year until GF's mom and he split up.

Oh, and GF's younger brother? GF's mom got pregnant to keep her 'then' boyfriend around. It didn't work, and he took off.

When I asked why GF and high school friend didn't stay friends, she explained that GF has difficulty maintaining female friendships because she was controlling, always trying to make people do what she wanted, and was very dramatic and troubled. The high school friend and GF stopped being friends when GFs friend found out GF was sleeping w/her boyfriend.

Contra Mundum · #**107** Jun 5, '12, 11:04 pm

Wow, this is serious drama. On the one hand I feel sorry for GF because of the messed up environment she gew up in, but on the other hand she is bad, bad news. Therapy would be a place to start.

Young men can be very stupid sometimes, but eventually come to their senses. I doubt that even sex can hold a man when he suffers abuse. If she is controlling and clingy this early on in the relationship, chances are it will increase as time goes on. It might take some time for DS to wake up and smell the cofee, but it is bound to happen. He was raised in a healthy, loving environment and has a sense of what normal behaviour is, although his judgement is clouded now. He knows better and my guess is that eventually he will get sick and tired of this drama.

TheRealJuliane · #**108** Jun 6, '12, 5:45 am

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Originally Posted by Contra Mundum

Wow, this is serious drama. On the one hand I feel sorry for GF because of the messed up environment she gew up in, but on the other hand she is bad, bad news. Therapy would be a place to start.

Young men can be very stupid sometimes, but eventually come to their senses. I doubt that even sex can hold a man when he suffers abuse. If she is controlling and clingy this early on in the relationship, chances are it will increase as time goes on. It might take some time for DS to wake up and smell the cofee, but it is bound to happen. He was raised in a healthy, loving environment and has a sense of what normal behaviour is, although his judgement is clouded now. He knows better and my guess is that eventually he will get sick and tired of this drama.

Yes, she does need help. I need to add her to my prayers. She's acting out the "Bad Girl" role and probably thinks she's having a great time and that everyone else is the problem. But from what's been said, she's never had a father in her life and her mother doesn't sound much like a mother figure either. What a tragedy!

I feel very sad for her little brother, also growing up with no father.

ArkansasMom's son is really her knight in shining armor, isn't he? He must feel good having rescued her and improved her life. At least for now...But reality is going to start hitting him very soon. I worry about what she would do if he tried to leave.