Special forum for the sex talk?

TheCartoonist · #1 Jun 12, '12, 8:01 pm

I got together with a friend of mine recently and we somehow came to talk about Catholic Answers forum. During the conversation she mentioned that sometimes she feels wrong after coming onto here, and I admit I feel the same way. We're both young and not married, and feel that all the sex talk can get just a bit too graphic for our liking. I realize that we don't have to read it, but for me it is tempting. Usually it'll be something like "is it a sin to do this", and I'll find myself wanting to know the answer so I just keep reading. I feel like no matter which forum you go into you'll find several threads about sex. I was just thinking if there was a special forum dedicated to sex related questions it'd be a lot easier for those of us who don't want to read all about it. A little bit doesn't bother me mentioned in posts here or there, but for those threads that only talk about sex I think there must be a better place for them!

Anyone else feel this way?

austenbosten · #2 Jun 12, '12, 8:15 pm

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Originally Posted by TheCartoonist

I got together with a friend of mine recently and we somehow came to talk about Catholic Answers forum. During the conversation she mentioned that sometimes she feels wrong after coming onto here, and I admit I feel the same way. We're both young and not married, and feel that all the sex talk can get just a bit too graphic for our liking. I realize that we don't have to read it, but for me it is tempting. Usually it'll be something like "is it a sin to do this", and I'll find myself wanting to know the answer so I just keep reading. I feel like no matter which forum you go into you'll find several threads about sex. I was just thinking if there was a special forum dedicated to sex related questions it'd be a lot easier for those of us who don't want to read all about it. A little bit doesn't bother me mentioned in posts here or there, but for those threads that only talk about sex I think there must be a better place for them!

Anyone else feel this way?

No, but if it helps people from being tempted, then by all means I'm in favor of a sub-forum for issues regarding intimate relations.

AllSeasons · #3 Jun 12, '12, 8:26 pm

I tend to agree, but for a different reason. These forums are frequented not only by adults, but also by kids under the age of 18. I don't know if there's anything in the forum rules regarding such "sex talk" posts, but I think there's a moral - and perhaps legal - responsibility to protect children from such graphic descriptions and adult topics. I know that if I were a dad, I would not want my kids to accidentally stumble upon such "sex talk" posts.

bonvivantHermit · #4 Jun 12, '12, 8:27 pm

I understand what you are saying- but, as long as your an adult, I think MOST threads are edifying and useful. I mean now you know you married couples sleep naked...

Seriously, I veto a forum....I mean all I think of then is Penthouse....definately not CAF.

Maybe a flag on thread title, or an XXX ...just kidding. We're adults is what I am trying to say and I don't think healthy, moral talk about sexuality is an occasion of sin. Of course, I am a shameless married.

AthenaC · #5 Jun 12, '12, 8:54 pm

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Of course, I am a shameless married.

Yep - I definitely hear you there!

I am of two minds -

1) I can see the logic in having a subforum for "marriage / intimacy issues" similar to the "parenting" subforum just for classifying things a little better
2) "Marriage / intimacy issues" definitely fit well within the "Family Life" category. Plus, occasionally there's questions on "how to best communicate chastity to kids" or things of that nature. One thing that can help in this regard is to let the kids see through a window of how sex actually is post-marriage (i.e. a realistic picture from real people rather than one big theoretical discussion). That it IS great, but at the same time it's also not the Hollywood magical panacea.

maryjk · #6 Jun 12, '12, 9:06 pm

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Originally Posted by TheCartoonist

I got together with a friend of mine recently and we somehow came to talk about Catholic Answers forum. During the conversation she mentioned that sometimes she feels wrong after coming onto here, and I admit I feel the same way. We're both young and not married, and feel that all the sex talk can get just a bit too graphic for our liking. I realize that we don't have to read it, but for me it is tempting. Usually it'll be something like "is it a sin to do this", and I'll find myself wanting to know the answer so I just keep reading. I feel like no matter which forum you go into you'll find several threads about sex. I was just thinking if there was a special forum dedicated to sex related questions it'd be a lot easier for those of us who don't want to read all about it. A little bit doesn't bother me mentioned in posts here or there, but for those threads that only talk about sex I think there must be a better place for them!

Anyone else feel this way?

What makes you think that putting all of the "sex talk" in one place will stop you from looking at it? Won't it just make it easier for you? All you will have to do is to go to that sub-forum and find all of it at one time.

meltzerboy · #7 Jun 12, '12, 9:15 pm

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Originally Posted by maryjk

What makes you think that putting all of the "sex talk" in one place will stop you from looking at it? Won't it just make it easier for you? All you will have to do is to go to that sub-forum and find all of it at one time.

That's what I was thinking: it's both easier to avoid and easier NOT to avoid if one is tempted.

Contra Mundum · #8 Jun 13, '12, 12:15 am

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Originally Posted by TheCartoonist

Anyone else feel this way?

I think a sex sub-forum would be great.

**Church Militant** · #9 Jun 13, '12, 2:42 am

I think that most of those who post all that stuff on here need to take it up with their priest privately. Most of that is TMI.

People need to remember that the low end age limit here at CAF is 13.

This discussion probably belongs down in Suggestion Box

**Michael Francis** · #10 Jun 13, '12, 3:18 am

Moved to SB

trials · #11 Jun 13, '12, 4:17 am

Why not have it as a sub forum of Parenting? That means it's likely that only married couples will be in the discussion forum anyway. A child is unlikely to navigate to the Parenting section.

And I agree that sometimes the Family Life section seems to fill up with TMI type questions. Definitely move them please, because they could be a temptation for younger less formed minds.

TheCartoonist · #12 Jun 13, '12, 5:42 am

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Originally Posted by maryjk

What makes you think that putting all of the "sex talk" in one place will stop you from looking at it? Won't it just make it easier for you? All you will have to do is to go to that sub-forum and find all of it at one time.

Haha, it's hard to explain. I don't usually give in to temptation that easily, and if I'm looking for more information on those things I'll know where to find it. It's not that I always feel like I'm sinning by reading them, and sometimes I learn things that might be important later in life... much later in life.

To the person who said we're all adults, we're not. I'm 20 now, but I've been coming to the forums since I was around 15. I also know my brothers are around the forums as well. I do think these posts can be helpful sometimes, but at this point in my life I'm not married and I don't have a boyfriend and I'm really just looking for a place I can go where people don't talk about sex! And those are so hard to find. I'm starting to think the entire world is sex crazed...

TheRealJuliane · #13 Jun 13, '12, 5:04 pm

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE make this sub forum!! I am SO TIRED of having so many threads on homosexuality and transgenderism and all manner of perversions...I am almost ready to just walk away from CAF because of this constant hammering on homosexuality!!

Please, I beg you, please. Make a sub-forum and make it locked or something, so the younglings can't get in. Then the homosexual advocates and trans-whatevers can post all they want and the rest of us don't have to see it !!!

Luigi Daniele · #14 Jun 13, '12, 5:10 pm

The ones that bother me are the "I am masturbating so much that I catch myself on fire".

I am always afraid that someone here at work will see the titles on the main page and get really odd ideas about me.

bonvivantHermit · #15 Jun 13, '12, 6:52 pm

I did not realize children read/posted on CAF. Can't imagine mine doing so....

But since that's the case- sure move those posts to another age regulated area.