Missed opportunities?

[LotusCarsLtd]

Kinda curious: There's a girl at church that I find attractive (different from the other girl I've mentioned) and who've I've chatted up before. But I haven't made any moves because she's going overseas soon and I figured it wasn't worth it.

And yet I continually feel bad about not making a move. I'm wondering if this is an opportunity I'm missing and if these feelings are a sign that I need to act before she goes.

Thoughts? Or are these just paranoid worries?

EDIT: I might be able to get her email from a mutual acquaintance, but I fear that may come off as creepy. Thoughts?

[trinichiqn]

Originally Posted by LotusCarsLtd

Kinda curious: There's a girl at church that I find attractive (different from the other girl I've mentioned) and who've I've chatted up before. But I haven't made any moves because she's going overseas soon and I figured it wasn't worth it.

And yet I continually feel bad about not making a move. I'm wondering if this is an opportunity I'm missing and if these feelings are a sign that I need to act before she goes.

Thoughts? Or are these just paranoid worries?

EDIT: I might be able to get her email from a mutual acquaintance, but I fear that may come off as creepy. Thoughts?

First off you don't want to come across as a player or desperate so you need to choose just one girl and exam your reasons for that choice carefully. Don't decide on one just because she will be sticking around or the other just because she's leaving and you might not get another chance.

What attracts you to each girl, for the one who is going away are those reasons enough that you are willing to put in the work and sacrifice that a LDR takes. Long distance relationships can work you just have to be willing to work at it. You won't always get to talk to the person when you want to. You definitely cannot spend the amount of time you want to, doing the things you would like to. Also as far as the email address get it from her not someone else, it's kind of creepy otherwise.

[LotusCarsLtd]

Originally Posted by trinichiqn

First off you don't want to come across as a player or desperate so you need to choose just one girl and exam your reasons for that choice carefully. Don't decide on one just because she will be sticking around or the other just because she's leaving and you might not get another chance.

What attracts you to each girl, for the one who is going away are those reasons enough that you are willing to put in the work and sacrifice that a LDR takes. Long distance relationships can work you just have to be willing to work at it. You won't always get to talk to the person when you want to. You definitely cannot spend the amount of time you want to, doing the things you would like to. Also as far as the email address get it from her not someone else, it's kind of creepy otherwise.

Yeah I kinda felt the same way. I'm really thinking that I should hold off on anything (even getting the other girl's email) because I can see myself on the verge of screwing this up. Regardless, though, I'll admit that either girl I'm unsure on, you know?

[trinichiqn]

Originally Posted by LotusCarsLtd

Yeah I kinda felt the same way. I'm really thinking that I should hold off on anything (even getting the other girl's email) because I can see myself on the verge of screwing this up. Regardless, though, I'll admit that either girl I'm unsure on, you know?

Well you don't have to be 100% sure, you don't even have to be 50% but you do have to make up your mind and make a choice, take a chance. You won't know until you put yourself out there but you know the situation better than anyone.

It is good to step back if needed and take your time but you can't keep stopping yourself from trying because you think you will screw up because you will psych yourself out every time.

I know I have made a few mis-steps in my relationship and I definitely know he has made a few. We apologize, we talk, we work it out, we determine to do better.