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daviddewar · #16 Jun 28, '12, 5:41 pm

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Originally Posted by CleverUserName

This was excellent advice.

I am praying for you, too.

Sometimes I find that God doesn't answer me boldly because He knows that I already know the answer. I'm not saying you do, just wondering if there has been one constant underneath it all, some direction that you've felt that hasn't changed.

Pray for her.

I want to thank you both. I guess that makes sense. Perhaps I'm too busy looking for signs that I'm ignoring everything else God is telling me and forgetting the promises he made me before.

Just as an update, she says she doesn't want a divorce, but we've been separated for 6 months and haven't spoken in 2 (besides one email where she told me she hasn't decided to divorce me but she's looking for signs that things will be better if we reconnect and she's praying and waiting silently for God to tell her what to do).

I'm just upset because everything seemed to be going really well - marriage, job offers, etc. Now: nothing. But she did tell our daughter that she does not want a divorce. Again, I'm just frustrated because I don't know what to do.

God, thank you for hearing my prayers and the prayers of these people. Please guide me as I try to find the clarity throughout this situation.

CleverUserName · #17 Jun 29, '12, 8:50 am

That is certainly good news! I guess the next question is this: "OK it's wonderful that don't want a divorce... what is the next step for us?". I hope she will answer that for you. There is little worse than being left hanging, wondering....having to fill in the blanks with your own imagination. My heart goes out to you.

Praying, still!

**tbcrawford** · #18 Jun 29, '12, 10:54 am

Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen

Yamila56 · #19 Jun 29, '12, 12:23 pm

Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death.
Amen.

daviddewar · #20 Jun 29, '12, 12:44 pm

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Originally Posted by CleverUserName

That is certainly good news! I guess the next question is this: "OK it's wonderful that don't want a divorce... what is the next step for us?". I hope she will answer that for you. There is little worse than being left hanging, wondering....having to fill in the blanks with your own imagination. My heart goes out to you.

Praying, still!

No need to be happy just yet. I am losing my place to live and I still haven't found full time work. I had to ask my mother to ask my wife what should be done with all of our marital property (furniture, television, household goods, etc). I told my mother that I would rent a storage unit if there were any chance that my wife and I would reconcile and she informed my wife of this. My wife replied by saying that it would be best to pack up all of her personal belongings so she can get them and we can sell or donate all communal property. She said she is not going to make a commitment one way or the other and that she doesn't have any answers and that people are coming at her from all angles to make up her mind but she's just not ready yet. Seeing as how she doesn't want me to keep any of our communal property, I'd say she's already made up her mind.

God bless.

jeannetherese · #21 Jun 29, '12, 12:55 pm

Dear Lord,
Please guide David and his wife ever closer to You as they seek to determine Your will in their lives. May they find peace in Your Eucharistic Presence. May their thoughts and actions be ordered towards Your Holy Will. May their focus on You help them to find new ways to interact with each other so that they may help each other to achieve salvaton. Amen.

**tbcrawford** · #22 Jun 29, '12, 2:13 pm

Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen

**tbcrawford** · #23 Jun 30, '12, 2:10 pm

Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen

CleverUserName · #24 Jun 30, '12, 11:43 pm

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Originally Posted by daviddewar

No need to be happy just yet. I am losing my place to live and I still haven't found full time work. I had to ask my mother to ask my wife what should be done with all of our marital property (furniture, television, household goods, etc). I told my mother that I would rent a storage unit if there were any chance that my wife and I would reconcile and she informed my wife of this. My wife replied by saying that it would be best to pack up all of her personal belongings so she can get them and we can sell or donate all communal property. She said she is not going to make a commitment one way or the other and that she doesn't have any answers and that people are coming at her from all angles to make up her mind but she's just not ready yet. Seeing as how she doesn't want me to keep any of our communal property, I'd say she's already made up her mind.

God bless.

David, would you say this experience is bringing you closer to God or driving you further away? What would your guess be about her?

daviddewar · #25 Jul 1, '12, 1:50 pm

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Originally Posted by CleverUserName

David, would you say this experience is bringing you closer to God or driving you further away? What would your guess be about her?

Right now I don't know. I want to put all of my faith in God and know that as long as I do that I will be OK, but this is pretty difficult. I haven't always practiced the best faith and I have often turned away from prayer to rely on my own decisions in the past, and I feel like that may happen again. As I said before, I really don't feel the same comfort as I did before and the same presence of the Holy Spirit. I KNOW it was there before, but now... it doesn't seem like anything is there and I'm afraid I'm just going to give up on faith and start taking complete control over all my situations again, which in the past brought nothing but trouble and grief. I pray every day; I pray now more frequently than I ever have. I ask God to guide me, I ask Christ for Mercy, I ask Mary for comfort. Unfortunately it does feel like I'm still just sitting idle.

I can't speak for my wife except I know for a fact that she has always had a very strong, deep-rooted faith in God. I know she told me a few weeks ago that she is just waiting for God to tell her what to do and when to do it.

**tbcrawford** · #26 Jul 2, '12, 8:57 am

Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen

daviddewar · #27 Jul 5, '12, 7:30 pm

Well just to let anyone that has been praying that might still be interested know, I spent the holiday with my kids yesterday. During a conversation about our family my children informed me that my wife no longer wears her wedding ring or engagement ring.

I have been applying for so many jobs and have even placed ads for my services on the Internet but now I am not getting any phone calls at all.

I swear, I must have done something horribly wrong because no matter what I try to do and no matter how hard I pray, everything is just coming up as a dead end. I really just wish God would reveal what he wants. I'm just lost.

CleverUserName · #28 Jul 5, '12, 9:15 pm

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Originally Posted by daviddewar

Well just to let anyone that has been praying that might still be interested know, I spent the holiday with my kids yesterday. During a conversation about our family my children informed me that my wife no longer wears her wedding ring or engagement ring.

I have been applying for so many jobs and have even placed ads for my services on the Internet but now I am not getting any phone calls at all.

I swear, I must have done something horribly wrong because no matter what I try to do and no matter how hard I pray, everything is just coming up as a dead end. I really just wish God would reveal what he wants. I'm just lost.

If only we knew what God wants us to see in any given situation.

Padre Pio had an analogy that we are looking up like children, looking up at the underside of a cross-stiched pattern. It looks a mess from down here, all jumbled and inconsistent and chaotic. But if we could stand on a stool and see what God has stitched from the top, we'd see a beautiful image, a stunning piece of art, how it's all come together into something magnificent.

You're looking at the bottom of the cross stitching right now and it's now that you will really need your faith the most as I'm sure you're finding out. Please trust that He has a reason for all of this according to His plan.

Heavenly Father, I know David is in despair, so tempted to give up.
Everything seems so meaningless and nothing appeals to his better instincts.
Help him to remember that Jesus gave meaning to everything in the world.
Let him bank on that fact and get over this time of despair,
to really believe in the depths of his being that there is a reason for living and even for this time of terrible turmoil and grief.
Show him the reason for his life and separation and tell him what he must do.
Bring home to him that he is never alone, but that You are with him even in the depths of despair. Remind him that no matter what he may endure now,
an unending joy awaits him in the future if he but clings tightly to You
and your Son Jesus in the unity of the Holy Spirit. Amen.

NeedsMercy · #29 Jul 5, '12, 9:38 pm

David, try asking St. Joseph to intercede for you. He has answered so many of my prayers when things in my marriage were going horribly. He may also be your answer to getting a new job.

Our Father, Who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy Name. Thy Kingdom come. Thy Will be done, on earth as it is in Heaven. Give us this day our daily bread and forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou amongst women and blessed is the Fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death. Amen.

Glory be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit, as it was in the beginning, is now and ever shall be, world without end. Amen.

Remember, O most pure spouse of Mary, and my dearly beloved guardian, St. Joseph, that never was it known that anyone who invoked your care and requested your help was left without consolation.

Inspired with this confidence, I come to you, and with all the ardor of my spirit I commend myself to you. Do not reject my prayer, O Foster Father of the Savior, but graciously receive and answer it.

Amen.

hopeful01 · #30 Jul 5, '12, 11:20 pm

Father, I lift up to You daviddewar and his family. Please let him know in ways he understands Your plan for him and his family. Touch the heart, mind, and soul of his wife and remind her of the promises she made to her husband, family, community and to You to remain faithful to her wedding vows. Please grant a resolution to the discord in this family. Ease the suffering of the children. Grant all of them peace and love.

St. Joseph, I ask for your intercession in this situation. Intercede with God for daviddewar in his search for a lucrative job and his desire to keep his family intact.

Our Father in heaven
Holy be Your name
Your kingdom come
Your will be done
On earth as it is in heaven
Give us this day our daily bread
And forgive us our sins
As we forgive those who sin against us
Do not bring us to the test
But deliver us from evil
AMEN