Depressed about never having a boyfriend...

[vera dicere]

I'm 31 and have never had a boyfriend. You're fine. Stop worrying. Fill your life with things that matter for you at the moment, Church, school, job, decisions about life, travelling.

[SeekNFind]

Originally Posted by vera dicere

I'm 31 and have never had a boyfriend. You're fine. Stop worrying. Fill your life with things that matter for you at the moment, Church, school, job, decisions about life, travelling.

Ditto. I started a thread about this and there are more of us out there than I realized. And for anyone needing encouragement, here's a story I listened to last night about a woman who didn't have a boyfriend or meet her husband until her mid 30s!

http://setapartgirl.com/mymessage-krissysstory.html

[wbrisc92]

Ugh, knee surgery! As an athletic person i can understand the horror of such a process. Maybe you can swim?
If not, you can still do upper body and core muscle work. Maybe this is an opportunity to get those arms and abs toned, you don't need knees to do sit-ups or pull ups!
Also, since you won't be participating in aerobic activity you will be able to see the results of your eating habits more clearly. This will give you a chance to fine tune them, if they need fine tuning

On to the next point: the boyfriend situ
The best advice i can give is to be confident and to smile.
The most attractive thing is a confident happy person.

When i am feeling unattractive/crummy/blue/etc., i put on my favorite tunes, my most sexy bra and panties, a cute outfit, and gussy myself up, then i run errands. Getting out into the fresh air is a mood booster on it's own, and getting things done does a girl good. Walking around all those strangers knowing that you are wearing some freakin' hot underwear gives an unspoken self-confidence(it doesn't matter that you are the only person that will see them) that should make you smile

Making friends with boys is the best route to a boyfriend(friendship is the best base for a relationship). At your age guys might still be timid to readily approach a woman, if you are offering friendship they might be more willing to really get to know you. Put yourself in situations where you will meet a lot of people, the more fish in the pond, the more likely you are to catch one.

Take it slow, get to know yourself before you get thrown into a relationship

Hope this helped! Good luck!

[missmorgan389]

I'm in the exact same boat as you are in. I'm 19, never dated, I've had a few people interested in me.. but not for the right reasons.

I would seriously pray for your vocation long and hard. As a single Catholic woman, maybe you aren't meant to be married. While a marriage vocation might sound nice and tangible now, maybe you are meant to consecrate your life to God. Have you ever considered religious life?

Just pray about it! Hope your knee heals quickly =]

[TrixieMcGee]

Well, I didn't start dating until I was in college, so I understand where you are coming from. It seemed everyone around me had guys asking them out and no one ever seemed to ask me out. In college, men started asking me out. I actually got married at 22 to my now husband, who I knew all through high school, but we never considered each other back then. It is funny what plans God has for you. I would have never imagined back in High School that I would have ever married him. lol. You are only 18, I know plenty of people who didn't even date until their 20's and they have mostly gotten married or are engaged. Don't loose hope.

[Crescentinus]

Do not EVEN try to dare rush yourself into a relationship and end up doing the same mistakes that I did!

[Serap]

I was a late bloomer...had my first real boyfriend at age 22.

Don't sweat it...some of us are late bloomers!

[chevalier]

Originally Posted by lovedance4ever

Hello everyone. I’m an eighteen (nineteen in a couple of months) year old female, and I realize that it is probably ridiculous to be feeling this way, but I am bothered by this situation, nonetheless.

I guess I’m just trying to figure out why I have never had a boyfriend and why it seems as if I am unattractive to the opposite sex. I try to not be distracted by such thoughts, but then after a while, it hits me hard, and I begin thinking that God intends for me to be single the rest of my life.

Again, I realize that this is probably ridiculous thinking, as I am still young, but there are times when I just want to know why I have not met anyone yet. Guys almost seem repulsed by me (unless it is in my head), and I do not think there is anything wrong with me, other than the fact that I am slightly shy on occasion.

I also just had knee surgery, and the medication they gave me has been making me feel rather down on everything and sick, and it just feels like everything is crumbling down on me. I’m quite athletic, and the fact that I cannot work out makes everything worse and magnifies all of my problems.

I apologize for this little rant lol. I’m finished now, but do ask for your prayers and perhaps some advice. Thank you in advance.

May it be blessed,

Lovedance4ever

You're fine! And you don't need a boyfriend to be a valuable person. In fact, a mediocre relationship would make it all the harder to be one. It's not necessary for you to have any number of boyfriends, it's only necessary to have a husband eventually if that is your calling. While experience expands our knowledge, lack of bad experience that makes us bitter people (or second guess ourselves) is an asset.

And it's normal to feel down when you're grounded and can't practice. How about some books or films? Don't spend several hours a day arguing stuff on a message board!

[benjammin]

LoveDance4 ever.

I'm sure you are a beautiful young woman, and hopefully God will help you find a man who will appreciate you. You are still so young and have a long time, and even if you don't find him for a lot longer, know this God loves you and knows how special you are. Keep close to him and he will give you what you need