Masturbation problems

[simpleusername]

Im having problems with masturbation and i figured it was about time i got some help from the internet. I kicked porn about 3 years ago, but when i'm in bed practically asleep (especially after a hard day) I will masturbate prone. this kind of masturbation doesn't really require me to be fully conscious so it is really hard to fight the temptation. It happens when i'm in a state of mind that i a lot of times don't even recall it happening if it was not for the presence of a discharge. much like a dream, you kinda remember having one but don't actually remember it. while i'm fully conscious i know what consequences are held with this sin i wouldn't dare to did it. Any advice or links to fighting this battle in my daily weakened state?

[Peanut7949]

Pray Hail Marys. Even helps during nightmares of any sort.

Hail Mary, Full of Grace, the Lord is with thee, Blessed art thou among women, and Blessed is the fruit of thy womb Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, Pray for us sinners, Now and at the hour of our death, Amen.

I pray the rosary once daily, and if I can't sleep, I pray in going to sleep. Your best bet!~

[dsully]

I read a book of sayings of the early Christian monks ("Desert Fathers") regularly. Their heroic striving toward virtue always inspire me.

Pray that God would make you like a monk, willing to do anything, including lose sleep, in order to fight temptation. I know it's difficult...but, as you can read in the sayings of the monks, it is definitely worth putting up a fight for.

With empathy,

Dan

[Lancer]

The Courage to Be Chaste
Fr. Benedict Groeschel

5.0 out of 5 stars Helpful advice for single people, January 23, 2002
By Matthew P. Whitehead (Falls Church, VA United States) - See all my reviews
(REAL NAME)
This review is from: The Courage to Be Chaste (Paperback)
I am a single man over 30 and I found this book to be quite helpful, for living a lifestyle which is chaste and pleasing to God. I like, for example, the author's focus on the importance of friendships, and the practical suggestions he offers in this and in other areas. I also like the fact that he addresses psychological conflicts people may have experienced. I definitely recommend this book for singles (especially those who can't or who are unlikely to marry for whatever reason).

http://www.amazon.com/The-Courage-Ch.../dp/0809127059

Be a Man!: Becoming the Man God Created You to Be
Fr. Larry Richards

5.0 out of 5 stars Provides a honest and challenging look at how to be a man, October 29, 2009
By Jason M. Molitor (Waukesha, WI USA) - See all my reviews
(REAL NAME)
This review is from: Be a Man!: Becoming the Man God Created You to Be (Paperback)
Gentlemen,
How many times have you looked around and asked "What in the heck is going on in the world?" There are threats to your masculinity as well as your family around every turn. I submit that these threats must be met by truly Christian men who understand what is at stake and want to do something about it.

Fr. Larry Richards is a masterful speaker and his humor and wisdom make this a must have book for any Christian man. To be a man holds many responsibilities and it can be difficult to maintain a truly Christian life in this crazy mixed up world. With the help of Fr. Larry and the unchanging truths of our Christian faith he will help you to step up and truly BE A MAN!

Our men's group will be using this book as a basis for our ministry and we highly recommend it.

http://www.amazon.com/Be-Man-Becomin...ref=pd_sim_b_7

Prayers for God's great graces for you.
Pax Christi

[Joe 5859]

I recommend praying before you go to bed and as you fall asleep.

[anruari]

Regular (weekly) confession
But be aware that the priest will probably tell you that you are not culpable in the same way for actions carried out when you are not fully conscious. Sin requires full conscious consent of the will.

Pray daily for an outpouring of repentance.

[lily20]

Put a book on "chastity" near your bed and read it when you are tempted or in the morning to establish your mind-set. They have small, cheap and/or free ones around.

Also, keep a daily journal. Write in the morning your feelings and how you will approach the evening. Write once when you get up, once during the day and then at night.

Preparation is 90%.

Hope this helps!
Lily
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[SonofMonica]

#1: Put your computer in a place in the house where it is able to be seen by others, and keep it there.

#2: Go to confession.

#3: Pray all the time. I recommend keeping a rosary in your pocket or around your wrist. Don't take it off. Treat it like a wedding ring.

I promise you this will work. It's been 2 and 1/2 years for me.

[Robert Sock]

CHAPTER 13 – On Resisting Temptations [The Imitation of Christ]

So long as we live in this world, we cannot remain without trial and temptation: as Job says, “Man's life on earth is a warfare.” We must therefore be on guard against temptations, and watchful in prayer, that the Devil find no means of deceiving us; for he never rests, but prowls around seeking whom he may devour. No one is so perfect and holy that he is never tempted, and we can never be secure from temptation.

Although temptations are so troublesome and grievous, yet they are often profitable to us, for by them we are humbled, cleansed, and instructed. All the Saints endured manly trials and temptations, and profited by them; but those who could not resist temptations became reprobate, and fell away. There is no Order so holy, nor place so secluded, where there are no troubles and temptations.

No man can be entirely free from temptation so long as he lives; for the source of temptation lies within our own nature, since we are born with an inclination towards evil. When one temptation or trial draws to a close, another takes its place; and we shall always have something to fight, for man has lost the blessing of original happiness. Many try to escape temptations, only to encounter them more fiercely, for no one can win victory by flight alone; it is only by patience and true humility that we can grow stronger than all our foes.

The man who only avoids the outward occasions of evil, but fails to uproot it in himself, will gain little advantage. Indeed, temptations will return upon him the sooner, and he will find himself in a worse state than before. Little by little and by patient endurance you will overcome them by God's help, better than by your own violence and importunity. Seek regular advice in temptation, and never deal harshly with those who are tempted, but give them such encouragement as you would value yourself.

The beginning of all evil temptation is an unstable mind and lack of trust in God. Just as a ship without a helm is driven to and fro by the waves, so a careless man, who abandons his proper course, is tempted in countless ways. Fire tempers steel, and temptation the just man. We often do not know what we can bear, but temptation reveals our true nature. We need especially to be on our guard at the very onset of temptation, for then the Enemy may be more easily overcome, if he is not allowed to enter the gates of the mind: he must be repulsed at the threshold, as soon as he knocks. Thus the poet Ovid writes, “Resist at the beginning; the remedy may come too late.” For first there comes into the mind an evil thought: next, a vivid picture: then delight, and urge to evil, and finally consent. In this way the Enemy gradually gains complete mastery, when he is not resisted at first. And the longer a slothful man delays resistance, the weaker he becomes, and the stronger his enemy grows against him.

Some people undergo their heaviest temptations at the beginning of their conversion; some towards the end of their course; others are greatly troubled all their lives; while there are some whose temptations are but light. This is in accordance with the wisdom and justice of God's ordinance, who weighs the condition and merits of every man, and disposes all things for the salvation of those whom He chooses.

We must not despair, therefore, when we are tempted, but earnestly pray God to grant us his help in every need. For, as Saint Paul says, “With the temptation, God will provide a way to overcome it, that we may be able to bear bear it.” So, let us humble ourselves under the hand of God, in every trial and trouble, for He will save and raise up the humble in Spirit. In all these trials, our progress is tested; in them great merit may be secured, and our virtue become evident. It is no great matter if we are devout and fervent when we have no troubles; but if we show patience in adversity, we can make great progress in virtue. Some are spared severe temptations, but are overcome in the lesser ones of every day, in order that they may be humble, and learn not to trust in themselves, but to recognize their frailty.