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Old Jun 19, '12, 10:41 pm
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Default Re: Should I go to Disneyland with a friend who likes molesting people?

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I have a friend who have unfortunately developed a habit of doing dirty things. Such as glancing at your chest constantly and then smiling to herself. When my friend went out with her once, my friend said she keeps on touching her.

Should I go to Disneyland alone with this friend? She's also a girl, so would giving her the opportunity to touch me wrong?
No you should not go to disneyland with her.

Yes it would be wrong for at least one if not possibly two reasons

1) If you might get pleasure out of her touching you then it is an occasion of sin (which you did NOT seem to imply)
2) If she cant keep her hands to herself than by giving her close access to you you are scandalizing her weakness, thus helping her commit sins.

Pray for her and be kind but never the less refuse the invitation.
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Old Jun 19, '12, 11:42 pm
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Personally, I wouldn't even want to be friends with such a person, let alone go somewhere alone with her.
Pretty much. Why would you be friends with someone who makes you uncomfortable? I don't know if this girl is genuinely creepy and perhaps malicious or just unaware that her behavior is inappropriate. Maybe someone should bring up this topic with her. If these characteristics developed suddenly, then maybe something happened to her to cause a change in her behavior. She might need some type of help. If she's an otherwise good friend and person, then I think maybe you or another friend should ask her why she is doing this and let her know that it makes some people uncomfortable. If she's a worthwhile friend, she'll be alarmed to know this and be thankful that you brought it to her attention.
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Old Jun 20, '12, 1:34 am
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Marry her, then there won't be any sin. Heh.
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Old Jun 20, '12, 2:04 am
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Default Re: Should I go to Disneyland with a friend who likes molesting people?

I have known her for 3 years. She just developed this habit half a year ago, after we became friends. She had been generally humorous and a fun person to be around, less so now.

I do want to help her, by what my friends told me she had been reading porn.

I know this question sounds pathetic but I really am a teen with some peer influence that made me feel going there alone with her is not a big deal. I am sure now, I will not go with her and I do hope I can find a way to help her.
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Old Jul 5, '12, 5:25 am
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Default Re: Should I go to Disneyland with a friend who likes molesting people?

My friend invited me to go to Disneyland and she also invited that friend I had been talking about.

I think it is fine to go as she promised not to do anything to me and she looked pretty serious when she said so. I have also asked my other friend who said she has been touching people a lot less lately and from what I have observed, she haven't ogled me in moment that I had expected her to when I chatted with her recently. She didn't ogle me at all, in fact, and her eyes are not as dark as before. She has those dark looks whenever she thinks something dirty. Perhaps after a lot of our friends repeatedly shown they are tired of her behaviour, she has changed. Her behavior seemed to have gotten back to normal.

So, I think it is fine to go.
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Old Jul 5, '12, 11:28 am
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I wouldn't.
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Old Jul 6, '12, 3:56 am
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Well now I am at Disney, she didn't touch me or ogle me. But she did have a discussion on homosexual stuff with my other friends. She does like to say or imply our friends are having a homosexual relationship or they are having something sexual going on. There's a few hours before the theme park closes. I am worried if she will think about me in a dirty way een though she did not do anything to me. Should I leave?
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Old Jul 30, '12, 6:01 am
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My best friend's birthday is coming soon and she maybe arranging an event such as shopping. It is extremely likely she will also invite my friend who liked ogle others. She was okay when me and my other three friends went to Disney together but at the very end, she reverted back to her old habit of looking at people because my other three friends, by talking about her behaviour and saying how she is a pervert in a half condemning yet a way that is almost encouraging.

I seriously don't know if I should go or not. If I don't, it will be disrespect to my friend who is the birthday girl. By the way, I cannot guess if my friend is going to continue her old habit.
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Old Jul 30, '12, 7:27 am
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My best friend's birthday is coming soon and she maybe arranging an event such as shopping. It is extremely likely she will also invite my friend who liked ogle others. She was okay when me and my other three friends went to Disney together but at the very end, she reverted back to her old habit of looking at people because my other three friends, by talking about her behaviour and saying how she is a pervert in a half condemning yet a way that is almost encouraging.

I seriously don't know if I should go or not. If I don't, it will be disrespect to my friend who is the birthday girl. By the way, I cannot guess if my friend is going to continue her old habit.
Seriously? After EVERYONE said how wrong it was to go to Disneyland and you went anyway, NOW you are asking about shopping?

This is a homosexual that is making passes at you. Why would you even think to go?
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Old Jul 30, '12, 8:25 am
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I have a friend who have unfortunately developed a habit of doing dirty things. Such as glancing at your chest constantly and then smiling to herself. When my friend went out with her once, my friend said she keeps on touching her.

Should I go to Disneyland alone with this friend? She's also a girl, so would giving her the opportunity to touch me wrong?
This is a friend?!!?!
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Old Jul 31, '12, 8:46 pm
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My best friend's birthday is coming soon and she maybe arranging an event such as shopping. It is extremely likely she will also invite my friend who liked ogle others. She was okay when me and my other three friends went to Disney together but at the very end, she reverted back to her old habit of looking at people because my other three friends, by talking about her behaviour and saying how she is a pervert in a half condemning yet a way that is almost encouraging.

I seriously don't know if I should go or not. If I don't, it will be disrespect to my friend who is the birthday girl. By the way, I cannot guess if my friend is going to continue her old habit.
Keeping company with this girl will only lead to trouble. Sooner or later she will get more aggressive with you and you will find yourself in an uncomfortable situation where you will have to give into her or tell her off and end all contact for good. You should keep your distance in all circumstances that involve her until your other friends wise up and stop inviting her to their activities. You and the birthday girl can arrange something to do with just the two of you.
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My best friend's birthday is coming soon and she maybe arranging an event such as shopping. It is extremely likely she will also invite my friend who liked ogle others. She was okay when me and my other three friends went to Disney together but at the very end, she reverted back to her old habit of looking at people because my other three friends, by talking about her behaviour and saying how she is a pervert in a half condemning yet a way that is almost encouraging.

I seriously don't know if I should go or not. If I don't, it will be disrespect to my friend who is the birthday girl. By the way, I cannot guess if my friend is going to continue her old habit.
Yes you can guess if she is gong to continue. It's quite easy. She behaves in a certain way, and has no reason at all to change. It's not like anyone has stopped going out with her or being friends with her or anything. She's not suffering any negative consequences. Why should she change?

Of course she won't stop. At least not for long.
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Old Aug 2, '12, 5:53 pm
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I have a friend who have unfortunately developed a habit of doing dirty things. Such as glancing at your chest constantly and then smiling to herself. When my friend went out with her once, my friend said she keeps on touching her.

Should I go to Disneyland alone with this friend? She's also a girl, so would giving her the opportunity to touch me wrong?
If you have evidence then report this person to police. Molesters only get worse. If you have no direct evidence then tell your friend who you say has been molested to go to the police.
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