Please, please pray - Page 4

daviddewar · #46 Jul 27, '12, 1:48 pm

I came back because I received an email notification very early this morning (1am) that there was a reply to this thread. I am unsubscribing because I no longer wish to receive any notifications, and I certainly don't need prayer.

Today is the last business day before what is the 8 year anniversary from when my wife and I met and started dating (Sunday the 29). Today is also the day that she finally filed for divorce. This is no coincidence.

I believed in God. I believed that Jesus loved me and would have mercy on my soul. I believed that as long as I prayed and followed the teachings of Christ that everything would turn out for the better. I believed my wife when she told me that she loved me and that she believes God wants us to be married. I believed all that she said when she told me she was praying for our marriage to work out.

Either God does not exist or he hates me for whatever reason. If he does exist then why don't one of you ask him, since a lot of you seem to express a very personal relationship with God, why has God taken away every single opportunity for a family that I have had since birth? Why did he make my father walk out when I was a baby only to never see him again (not even a picture)? Why did he get me to drop my guard about a year after my mom remarried when I was 8 and accept my new stepfather, a Catholic by the way, as my dad and call him dad only for him to die suddenly 3 years later? Why did God allow my mother to move me almost 1,000 miles away from the rest of my family, including my older siblings, a year after that? Why did God decide that maybe I should have another opportunity at a family by having my mother remarry a year after that, but this time I kept my guard up until about 4 years ago at the urging of my wife (she explained I could never have a family if I don't reach out to them), only for him to die suddenly as well 2 years later? Why was I sexually abused as a child? Why was I tormented by just about every other kid at school? If God loves me so much, why would all of this happen? What did I do to deserve this? Again, either God does not exist or he hates me more than anyone else in this world.

Have fun and carry on with your life. I do not have any faith in God whatsoever and I will be doing just fine now that I'm going to focus on actually making my life better without the help of some mysterious figure that hasn't shown himself to anyone in thousands of years.

**tbcrawford** · #47 Jul 28, '12, 1:55 am

I am so so sorry you are hurting so much.My heart goes out to you. You have suffered so very much in your life and I am sorry you have had to.Life can be so hurtful and downright awful at times. All I want to say is things will get better in time.Time is a great healer.
I too have suffered much throughout my life in various ways.
God cannot make someone do something though.We all each have our own free will to choose our path in life.God can guide us and give us opportunities to take but we have to take them up....He cannot make someone do something.
I have two sons going through difficult times in their lives.They need guidance and I pray to God for that.It is up to them however to choose to take opportunities that may come theur way and choose the right path.

I have often heard the saying that those of us who suffer in this life do so becuase they will not have to suffer in the next life.

I know things are tough for you right now.Life will move on.......in one direction or another.You are going through a very tough time,allow yourself time to grieve for what is happening in your life. When you are ready make new friends and start new pursuits and keep yourself busy.Eventually you will be able to heal from these deep emotional wounds.

God does love you.....you are preciosu to Him.You may not feel like it right now but God does love you and will guide you if you allow him.In time you will be able to move forward in your life.

Sending you (((HUGS))) and prayers.

Dear Lord please help our friend who is in such pain.Please comfrot and heal him and guide him to be able to move forward in his life.Amen

God blessMemorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen

jeannetherese · #48 Jul 29, '12, 5:28 pm

May Our Lord bless you and keep you as you mourn and guide you as you seek comfort. Amen.

**tbcrawford** · #49 Jul 31, '12, 2:13 am

Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen

daviddewar · #50 Aug 2, '12, 7:20 am

I just don't get it. I don't get it at all. I hate to sound like I'm whining or being selfish but I have already suffered so much in my life! My wife knows that my only goal in life, my ONLY goal, was to be married and have a family. So she waited for the anniversary of when we "became a couple" to file for divorce and she's also asking the court to deny visitation and communication with my children. I have nothing now. I have only found a little bit of work and its barely enough to pay child support never mind trying to find a place to live (which I have to do SOON or else I will be homeless). She's telling my kids that this divorce is my idea that I was the one that wanted it.

Funny thing is, she's the one who brought me back to church after years of not going and fear of God. She claims (as well as her father) that she believes divorce is wrong and that she still loves me. Why would someone who taught me so much about faith just abandon me and take away everything I worked so hard for? Why would God allow this? Why does God want me so miserable? I seriously just don't understand. I miss my kids, and yes I even miss my wife more than I can describe despite the horrible way she's been treating me.

I never wanted this kind of life. As a matter of fact, this is the kind of life that I swore to stay away from. I can't stand it.

**tbcrawford** · #51 Aug 2, '12, 10:56 am

David I feel your pain.....my heart goes out to you.All I can do is pray that things will get better for you.I hope you have been able to get access to counselling and speaking to your priest will help you so much.

I pray you will find a new home and can have the strength to cope with all these terribly painful things happening to you.God is with you every step of the way.He cannot however make your wife do anything.I pray you and your wife can be more tolerant to one another and are able to eventually get a business relationship betweeen you.Time moves on and it is surprising how things can quickly change from what you thought. God loves you as He loves all His children.You are in my prayers.

God bless

Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen

daviddewar · #52 Aug 3, '12, 12:15 pm

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Originally Posted by tbcrawford

God is with you every step of the way.He cannot however make your wife do anything.

This is what I have a problem with right now. I was always told that God's power was limitless and that there is nothing he cannot do. This is why I am rapidly losing any faith I may have had. God should know what is in my heart and he should know the pain I have been in and he should have been able to do something by now to stop it. I know that any time I can stop my children from experiencing some sort of pain I do whatever it is that is in my power to do something about it. Why should I continue to pray? Why should I continue to have faith? God hasn't done much of anything for me - he's given me happiness before (if it really was him) only for that to be taken away so many times either through death of voluntary actions of other people. Why doesn't God do something to make this pain stop or to prevent the pain from happening?

**tbcrawford** · #53 Aug 4, '12, 2:11 am

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Originally Posted by daviddewar

This is what I have a problem with right now. I was always told that God's power was limitless and that there is nothing he cannot do. This is why I am rapidly losing any faith I may have had. God should know what is in my heart and he should know the pain I have been in and he should have been able to do something by now to stop it. I know that any time I can stop my children from experiencing some sort of pain I do whatever it is that is in my power to do something about it. Why should I continue to pray? Why should I continue to have faith? God hasn't done much of anything for me - he's given me happiness before (if it really was him) only for that to be taken away so many times either through death of voluntary actions of other people. Why doesn't God do something to make this pain stop or to prevent the pain from happening?

David my heart goes out to you.I send (((HUGS))) to you.

God does know what is in your heart and feels your pain.He does not want you to suffer.God can only guide each of us He cannot 'make' any of us do anything we have to choose to do things for our selves.We each have our own free will.God's will is for us all to know Him and love Him.He wants us all to have the opportunity to know and love Him and spend eternity with Him.We have many trials in this life here on earth.It is only natural that you feel as you do,you are hurting.The actions of others (in this case your wife) is what is hurting you.God is not making your wife hurt you.....He loves you as He loves each and every one of His children.I pray he will guide your wife and you to come to be able to have an arrangement between you both not only for yourselves but for the sake of your children.
God's power is limitless but He cannot make someone do something.....He can guide us to follow the right path,but each of us have to choose which path we take,

I am really sorry for your pain.My son's are going through some very difficult times right now of a similar vein to yours.I have been through some very tough times also.I place all my trust in God and he has always helped me....I have not always known what to pray for as some of my situations have been so desperate...but He has always brought the right resolution. You remain in my thoughts and prayers
God bless

Lord please help our friend and his wife to be able to open their hearts and minds and be guided to the right resolution.We pray that our friend will have strength and comfort and we pray that this family will have Your blessing.Please Lord guide this husband and wife and comfort these children.We pray they will each feel Your love for them in their lives Amen

Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen