Well, six months later, I finally sent off my choices! The wedding was in July, and I was still waiting for "For Better Forever" to come in the mail. When it finally came I looked through it. It looks great, probably more likely to be read by her. The section on openness to life was nice because it was not so focused on RULES, but on encouraging the reader in a positive way to embrace life. On the other hand, it wasn't as focused on RULES as I'd like (sound a little schizophrenic do I?). If I were not privy to Church teaching I would come up with every excuse or rationalization out there to continue my lifestyle. For me, I'd need a very straightforward black and white specific explanation of RULES about sex, which Christopher West's book gives. So I decided to send her Popcak's and West's books...as a Christmas gift! I probably won't hear from her about it, since we live very far away, and aren't particularly close, so I wonder how the gift was received.
The note in the card was meant to make the books as enticing and non-threatening as possible. At least I can know I did my part (for now at least).
Thanks for all the advice.