St. Monica, Pray for us! - Page 12

BeyondWords · #**166** Jan 5, '10, 10:56 am

My husband cheats on me. Repeatedly, and in hateful, spiteful and disgusting ways. Then I find out, he apologizes and swears a new beginning. This starts the cycle, he resumes rigorous counseling, prayer, Mass attendance and attentions at home. I forgive, things relax and we are "happy" until the next lie or indiscretion is discovered. I don't know how much longer I can do this. Every time we go through this I think "NOW is when I will have my nervous breakdown", but I don't, and we go on in the same cycle. I wonder how this can really be God's plan for me. "Really? This is my life, Lord?" I wonder that this is what the Church and God truly intended for the unbreakable bond of marriage. I wonder how many more times I will have to endure this.

Please pray for me.

Belle10 · #**167** Jan 6, '10, 6:34 am

Praying for everyone represented here, especially those with much suffering to bear.

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

(the intentions of all on this thread)

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen.

MonicaRose · #**168** Jan 7, '10, 11:31 am

Praying for all the intentions here!

Saint Monica, please pray for all of us here and for our families!

JRPO · #**169** Jan 12, '10, 7:34 am

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

The Faith of my seven children

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen.

MonicaRose · #**170** Jan 19, '10, 11:59 am

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the conversion of my husband and healing of our marriage
all of the intentions on this thread

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen.

MonicaRose · #**171** Jan 21, '10, 11:14 am

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the conversion of my husband and healing of our marriage
all of the intentions on this thread

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen.

forlorna · #**172** Jan 21, '10, 11:30 am

goodness i need a friend in st monica and all of you here at the forum im so new i cant figure out how to post a picture on groups or for my proifie which says im a trial member or something similar...so help please explaining how to post pics and if i have to wait to become a full member..im confused..who is the saint for that? teehee

SRSA · #**173** Jan 22, '10, 9:02 am

Quote:

Originally Posted by BeyondWords

My husband cheats on me. Repeatedly, and in hateful, spiteful and disgusting ways. Then I find out, he apologizes and swears a new beginning. This starts the cycle, he resumes rigorous counseling, prayer, Mass attendance and attentions at home. I forgive, things relax and we are "happy" until the next lie or indiscretion is discovered. I don't know how much longer I can do this. Every time we go through this I think "NOW is when I will have my nervous breakdown", but I don't, and we go on in the same cycle. I wonder how this can really be God's plan for me. "Really? This is my life, Lord?" I wonder that this is what the Church and God truly intended for the unbreakable bond of marriage. I wonder how many more times I will have to endure this.

Please pray for me.

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

The healing of Beyond Words' marriage

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen

Belle10 · #**174** Jan 28, '10, 6:48 am

I don't post as often as I used to, but I'm still around.....

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

(the intentions of all on this thread)

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen.

May today bring peace to all represented here.

Rammy · #**175** Feb 1, '10, 7:00 pm

Belle my dear, i have been thinking of you often, and it led me back here!
AND THEN , i seen your post! God bless your trials, you and everyone else here.

I have been down and back up several times now with my husband. The family, i am hopeing is getting a bit stronger with him at least attempting to be on his meds. It does nothing more than take away his rage at the world, and it is at least bareable to live with him. The trick is to get him to at least remain on them.

My faith has been strong, but my will fights with me desperately by simply making me feel "stuck" due to the exhaustion at working at this all by myself, and still be the target of blame. I really do not care anymore who or what he blames, but in doing so, i have accepted it will not quite ever be the same. I mean in my heart, because i had hung on so dearly to hope.

I think it was misplaced hope though. I think it was allowing me to not move forward in a lot of ways. You see, God wants us to remain married through thick and thin, and so on. However, he does not believe we should be treated so terribly, and without love. Love to me has become a vacant word that i cringe hearing. If this is my husbands version of love, well i don't want it, for i am not a dog, door mat, ot punching bag for his verbal excercises!

In this we have to take responsibilty for our own actions! Yes, that is the hard thing to accept. For everything they put us through, every bit of peace we struggle for, and loose a little bit of ourselves in the process. But...we give it away for a price. To be loved, at any cost. For all we do, why are we not loveable by them? Because we simply do not love ourselves enough...and this truth is painful to admit.

My God knows my heart...and he sheds tears for my predicament, as do I. I seek him out less and less out of shame, and he does not want this. The first time a man hits us (or yells, or guilts us, etc) it is his fault. The second time, i share in this abuse by accepting the behaviour by staying! I too am part of the illness. For this i pray...for the strength to endure, and be lost in the gentle arms of Jesus to make me strong enough to love myself enough to be strong in Gods love.

I need to actually visit him in the garden, and Tarry there with him, as he is my truest friend. I have lost touch with him, and i feel hollow. I thought it was my life feeling hollow...but i realize it is the absence of his presence in my days that is the foundation of my most painful sorrows.

I can do anything...WITH him...it is alone i forgot to hold his hand!

Lana

geovet · #**176** Feb 7, '10, 5:49 am

Please pray fro my Alissa. She has left her faith for the love of her non catholic boy friend. There is a great split in our family. I will wait and pray for her return to our Lord.

Marie5890 · #**177** Feb 12, '10, 9:05 am

St. Monica, pray for "David", that he may recognize evil when he sees it; that he would find it offensive and outrage him as it does Our Lord. May he be drawn more deeply into discipleship with Our Lord; may he be transformed by grace thru the Holy Spirit. May he seek the Lord above all others. Amen

Belle10 · #**178** Feb 19, '10, 6:36 pm

Quote:

Originally Posted by Rammy

Belle my dear, i have been thinking of you often, and it led me back here!
AND THEN , i seen your post! God bless your trials, you and everyone else here.

Aw, you're sweet! Well, it must have been the Holy Spirit leading you back here.

Prayers for all in this thread, whether recent or from a long time ago.

I asked DH if we could pray together once a day (I suggested an Our Father since he is a identifies himself as a Christian and was raised Methodist but doesn't practice any particular faith). He said yes, but that he hoped I wouldn't be offended if he didn't pray aloud. I said that's fine with me -- I can be the one to pray aloud for us! It's a small step but one that I am so grateful for. I'm praying that he will be open to and supportive of NFP after this baby is born -- I'm nervous b/c he doesn't want more children and I think it's going to be challenging for us.

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

(the intentions of all on this thread)

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen.

Rammy · #**179** Feb 20, '10, 11:25 am

Today i am having a hard time even bonding with my husbands, and i know this keeps us apart. It is my late sons birthday (would be 25 today) and i know he did not care for him, but was extremely resentful of his illness and the debts it put us in.

But he was my son...not his...and he was dieing, and never once felt sorry for himself, but trudged on to do with the day what he thought God would want him to do.

And i guiltily wish he was here instead of my husband...who leaves me feel so lonely in life!

Lana

LongingForLight · #**180** Feb 20, '10, 8:34 pm

Could you please lift up my sister's husband in prayer? When they first married, faith was just becoming important to him. He has been attending Catholic church with her for years now, and recently is showing signs of either converting or joining another Christian church. He has been attending many other churches, including some non-Catholic churches, seeking answers. Today, I was talking with him on the phone, and God blessed my tongue with His Spirit, so that my BIL heard what he needed to hear (I think) - or at least some of it.

He is especially struggling with the spiritual deadness of the local Catholic parishes. However, he also might be discerning a call from God to help bring life to them, in at least some small ways. I think he's grasping that the Catholic church is under attack, and that he has a role in that battle.

He is especially interested in support for men. I'm thinking of recommending that he check out the Knights of Columbus. I know I recently learned that several of our own friends are members.

I would love to have another Catholic in the family, and religion has been a real source of friction in their home lately while he discerns so actively. Please pray for him and his wife, who is getting frustrated with his discernment process! Plus, their daughter is my goddaughter, and I would love her to witness her father's conversion!