Originally Posted by catholicmark87
Hey everyone my names mark im 21. I have a weird embarassing question to ask .. When i was younger between the ages of 1-9 me and my 2 brothers (all within 1 year of age) would bathe together prolly because my mom didnt want to waste time doing it individually. I faintly remember we (me n my brother) would play with each others privates which only happened on a couple occasions out of curiosity. But I was wondering if this is normal behavior or if this would be considered a grave sin that i would have to confess. We were never abused or anything I just want to know if this behavior is normal? Thanks
From JAW642 on 04/13/2010
I agree 100 percent with shondrea in Reply # 2, and the other Replies. I do not believe that kids around the age of nine years old, are capable of committing any mortal sin, and especially NOT sexual mortal or venial sin. Kids are simply not mature enough or responsible enough to realize the seriousness of what a true mortal sin is or really means.
Can anyone with an ounce of intelligence, ever believe that our loving God, would judge nine year old kids, as committing a mortal sin, and put them in hell for all eternity, just because they were curious, and decided to play with each otherís private parts.
So in my opinion, Catholicmark87, no sin at all was committed. It was simply normal boyhood curiosity. You were taking baths together with your brothers, and understandably you were all naked. Who would ever say that this was sinful?
At around nine years old, you certainly knew how to give yourself erections, and what your hard penis felt like. So you and your brothers playing with one anotherís private parts, is simply what I consider normal male curiosity and male play to learn how your private parts react to physical manipulation. At that particular age, there certainly could not have been any actual ejaculations. Plain and simple, you knew what your penis felt like when it got hard. And you were curious about what your brothersí erect penis felt like when you got his hard. And vice versa. At that age it was simple male curiosity about your bodies, and not at all sinful.
I am assuming that there was no forcing involved. I assume you and your brothers were all comfortable and agreeable to sharing these boyhood experiences with each other.
Even if you had the same or similar experiences with your male friends, it still would not have been sinful at that age. I would say, even up to the age of twelve.
Whether we admitted or not, I believe all males are inwardly curious about our brothers and male friendsí genital organs; what they look like, and how they work.
Therefore, even at the age of thirteen and older, I believe it is still normal male curiosity and there is nothing wrong with teen boys being curious about their friendsí bodies, and comparing the amount of pubic hair, testicles size, penis size, and erection size.
However, for boys thirteen and older, this genital comparison should be primarily visual, and only minimally tactile or manual, and only if the brother or friend is comfortable and agreeable to a manual inspection of his genital organs. I believe it goes without saying, that even after the age of twelve, it is still not wrong to participate in these genital size comparisons, as long as they are performed, OCCASIONALLY, and NOT each and every day or week.
Playing with and comparing the private parts of your brothers and male friends, without it being wrong, depends on the age of the males involved, and the frequency with which they do it.
Now, instead of being 9 years old, if a guy reaches say 29 years old, and he is still playing with the private parts of his brothers or male friends, then I doubt if we could still honestly categorize this behavior as normal male curiosity ! !
From JAW642 on 04/13/2010