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Old Jan 3, '11, 5:47 pm
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Default Husband breastfeeding on wife

It may sound super weird but is it ok for a husband to breastfeed off his wife? I wish to know if the church has a stance. I tried to look it up already and searched the posts but I could find nothing.
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Old Jan 3, '11, 5:51 pm
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Old Jan 3, '11, 5:59 pm
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Yeah, I don't know the official teaching on this... but my rule... If you got teeth... GET OFF! and chew your own dang food...
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Old Jan 3, '11, 6:19 pm
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I don't know what the church teaches about this, but sexual fetishes like this are destructive.The husband is in need of prayer and psychiatric help. The husband's desire to sexualize the act of nursing is disturbing. He is literally wanting to take food from his baby's mouth. Sounds like there are some really deep issues here. Jealousy, too. Please speak to your priest. Do it today.
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Old Jan 3, '11, 6:33 pm
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Yeah, I don't know the official teaching on this... but my rule... If you got teeth... GET OFF! and chew your own dang food...
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I don't know what the church teaches about this, but sexual fetishes like this are destructive.The husband is in need of prayer and psychiatric help. The husband's desire to sexualize the act of nursing is disturbing. He is literally wanting to take food from his baby's mouth. Sounds like there are some really deep issues here. Jealousy, too. Please speak to your priest. Do it today.
Amen. St. Joseph the Most Chaste Spouse pray for all husbands.
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Old Jan 3, '11, 7:15 pm
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I really don't see the need for the Church to go through every behavior a couple might do sexually and rubber stamp it or not. Read the Catechism and don't overthink it. If you want additional guidence, try "Holy Sex" by Gregory Popcak.

But people making judgments based on their own "Why would you even think of doing this?" are not giving you the Church's judgment. Really do we want to talk about all the details or do we want to respect that sex is private and intimate between husband and wife.
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Uhhh..... Is this something I have to worry about when I'm married?

I had a friend who worked in a porn store in college, so I've heard some weird stuff. But this tops it.
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Old Jan 3, '11, 7:23 pm
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ugh. gregory popcak. Everytime that name is mentioned an angel loses its wings. (that was a joke)

If your wife enjoys it- then fine. If your wife hates it- then don't.
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Old Jan 3, '11, 7:24 pm
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When I first heard of this, I thought it was one of those weird fetishes that very few people engage in. Now that I'm pregnant and spending time on breastfeeding message boards and websites, I've found that it's much more common than you'd think. It seems to be mostly men who are curious about what it would taste like and just want to try it (or who accidently get a mouthful during intimate moments), but it's still really common. My husband even had a coworker tell him about his experience with it (why they were talking about this at work I'll never know. )
I think it's something that many people have tried but few talk about because of the weirdness and embarassment. As strange as it is, I can't think of a reason why it would actually be sinful though.
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Old Jan 3, '11, 7:34 pm
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When I was pregnant, I researched all I could find about breastfeeding.

One of the links proposed that in cases of slow letdown, or milk not coming in, the husband could 'jump start' things as the suction would be greater, and yield a bigger benefit. So it could have legitimate usage in this way.

Otherwise, I'd say as long as the kidlets got plenty, and the wife is okay w/it, what's the big deal? And hey, sometimes teeth are nice, lol!

(that would be spouses teeth, btw)
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Old Jan 3, '11, 7:43 pm
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I find it idiosyncratically fascinating how every time an incongruous question of a sensual nature gets asked here, it always seems to be by someone of a lower post count. Is there a coincidence here?
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First I want to say the OP had a ligitimate question and deserves a response not accusations of being a weirdo.

As to whether or not is sinful..... Would the act be sinful if the woman never had kids and could not make milk? Whatever the answer is to that is you answer

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Old Jan 3, '11, 7:57 pm
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Just because something isn't uncommon doesn't make it OK. Breastfeeding is NOT SEXUAL!!! God has a perfect plan for a mother to nourish her baby. It is a special and intimate bond. It is beautiful. Don't cheapen it by turning it into foreplay. Give motherhood the dignity it deserves.

The danger with fetishes is that the man is often tempted ( especially with porn as an influence) into more and more bizarre and "taboo" behaviour, all in the name of curiosity and exploration, of course. What can start out as some playful desire to "spice up" a holy union can and often does tempt one into the "ungodly". A husband and wife should honor each other, in and out of the bedroom.

If a guy is really just curious about what the milk tastes like, his wife can express some with a pump and put it in a coffee mug. I doubt he'll be asking for "seconds".
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I didn't read each post, but they all seem to miss the point.
Lots of ifit'sokwithyouit'sokwithme&it'suptothem type posts which is irrelevant, at least for grown ups and Catholics...both of which I hope I can safely assume you are, given your name and your marital status
Also there is probably a reason you can't find information about this, as it does sound quite aberrant.

Ok: Whether or not you view the behavior you ask about as aberrant or not will depend on your view of the Sacraments. Matrimony is of course a Sacrament, which signifies and gives grace. Lacking a better term, this is a pretty big deal. The grace from Sacraments, and here we talk about marriage, will far outweigh any ideas people may have of how to create more closeness, or spice it up : or whatever... So if you ask this question because you are searching for a meaning or purpose in your marriage that you think may be found via this type of "intimacy", perhaps it will help you to recall that the union of the husband and wife is representative of the union of Christ and His Church. If you are just curious, again it will depend on how you view the Sacraments and how you value your curiosity compared to your desire for the sanctification of the grace received via Sacraments.. if you have a priest or confessor you can speak with, I would recommend that also.

Finally, the Church views marriage as a sacred responsibility.
You might consider thinking about that as an invitation, as opposed to a restriction.

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