From your experence why does NFP feel better than contraception?

[Good Daughter]

Originally Posted by Warrior1979

The boring, dry side of me rears its ugly head when discussing logic or technical issues.

There's no such thing as a boring, dry Warrior. Fiercely challenging is more like it.

Originally Posted by Warrior1979

To make a really long story short, my first wife refused to have children. When I got remarried, because of my wife's age (which started with a 4), we put the effort to have children in fifth gear right out of the starting blocks. It didn't happen, and we ended up adopting...best thing we ever did, BTW. We've never even considered using birth control of any sort.

So you have a fair bit of real life experience from different angles of the birth control issue. Very interesting.

It's great to hear something positive regarding adoption. Not that it's the same thing, but foster parenting is a dream of mine. Hopefully, someday...

[Good Daughter]

Originally Posted by Mary Gail 36

Small comment. That makes me reflect on our own situation. I would actually not mind living like that at all, no abc-no nfp.

We've been very conservative with NFP. Sometimes it makes me feel sad, because when we did abandon NFP we ended up having two back to back miscarriages. Then after that we had a baby. I faced a pregnancy with bed rest for days at a time, monitoring the placenta, spotting, gestational diabetes, finally premature labor and delivery, with a little baby in the NICU for 2 months. He faced jaundice, sepsis, blood transfusions, intubations, bradycardias, spinal tap and other things....


I just don't trust my body enough to say that if we conceive, the baby will live, and grow and be born full term and healthy. So at least we get to be with each other some times with NFP.

I don't think I could imagine what it woud be like going through all of that, Mary Gail. I whine about pregnancy nausea and get frazzled by my babies spitting up! I think those experiences come through in your posts as compassion.

People often make the mistake that Catholicism permits NFP because it is 'natural'. The truth is many things that are natural can harm or even kill us. We all know what Warrior 1979 means when he says he and his wife 'do what nature intended' but it's still important that we don't automatically use the term 'natural' as a synonym for 'better'.

[Mary Gail 36]

Originally Posted by Good Daughter

I don't think I could imagine what it woud be like going through all of that, Mary Gail. I whine about pregnancy nausea and get frazzled by my babies spitting up! I think those experiences come through in your posts as compassion.

People often make the mistake that Catholicism permits NFP because it is 'natural'. The truth is many things that are natural can harm or even kill us. We all know what Warrior 1979 means when he says he and his wife 'do what nature intended' but it's still important that we don't automatically use the term 'natural' as a synonym for 'better'.

It was hard. But we dealt with it one day at a time.

He is a sweet, sweet baby. I wish he didn't have to face the suffering he did, and I often wonder if his suffering had merit. I hope it did.

He seemed so brave during his ordeal.