Catholic guy dating a JW girl.. Please help..

[DJK100]

Originally Posted by jnoelbalana14

Thank you guys for your replies.. I think she'll still love me if I say that I don't believe Christ is not God. However, what she's emphasizing, I must learn more about her faith through bible study. I don't think she's forcing me in any way. She tells me I have the freedom to undergo bible study or not. But she's telling me that if I can't understand and accept her faith(which is possible through bible study), we'll be having problems in the future married life.. I'm so confused right now..

Hi, I went through a very similiar situation with a girl form INC. Long story short even though I loved her very much, I had to let her go. If she is not willing to learn your faith and is only expecting you to convert then their is no chance for you guys. I would say you need to let her go and search for someone who you could have a harmonious married life with. Besides how would you raise your childeren. Her family wouldn't be to happy about you raising them Catholic, and likely neither would she.

Just to let you know, I fought for my relationship for 1.5 years but bottom line is God comes first. If you want to know my experience give me a PM and I will elucidate more if you would like.

I feel for you... This situation pretty much sucks hard.

[jnoelbalana14]

Originally Posted by DJK100

Hi, I went through a very similiar situation with a girl form INC. Long story short even though I loved her very much, I had to let her go. If she is not willing to learn your faith and is only expecting you to convert then their is no chance for you guys. I would say you need to let her go and search for someone who you could have a harmonious married life first. Besides how would you raise your childeren. Her family wouldn't be to happy about you raising them Catholic, and likely neither would she.

Bottom line is God comes first.

Thank you.. I'm considering to let her go but it's never easy. We both know that we are inlove with each other,so much..

[DJK100]

Originally Posted by jnoelbalana14

Thank you.. I'm considering to let her go but it's never easy. We both know that we are inlove with each other,so much..

Trust me. I understand completely.

[jnoelbalana14]

Originally Posted by DJK100

Trust me. I understand completely.

Thanks.. I've sent a PM to you.. Well appreciated..

[Khalid]

Originally Posted by jnoelbalana14

Hi! I'm a devout Catholic. I've recently dated a girl who is a Jehovah's Witness. We love each other very much but religion is really a barrier. Just yesterday,she decided to broke up until I can fully understand her faith more - an allusion the she wishes me to study and eventually convert to her faith. We love each other so much but she's afraid that we can't make it in married life if we are from different religion. I don't want to lose her and it seems the only hope is that I know is to attend their bible studies but I don't think I'll convert to them. Please help.. I need your advices. Thanks alot..

I do not believe that a practicing Jehovah's Witness could be in a relationship with any Christian, let alone a marriage - Catholic most of all, the "Mother of All Whores, Babylon the Great, Pagan Mystery Religion" - unless that person (maybe) was a Christian in name only, and didn't care about religion (although, from the JWs I've seen, they wouldn't settle for a CINO), or if they would convert to Jehovah's Witnessism. Most Muslims are much more favorable towards Christians than JWs are, except JWs for the large part pull away from the world instead of engaging it, except in their rote door-to-door missionary work.

There's a likely chance she's dating you specifically to convert you to JW doctrine. JW is straight from the Pit itself, and none are more hating of Catholics. There's no way her family or her religion would ever approve of dating someone outside of the tradition (she'd be disfellowshipped if she married you as a Catholic or converted out of JW. Disfellowshipping is like an extreme form of anathema, which obliges even her parents and siblings - every JW alive - to refuse to acknowledge that she exists, and to shun her entirely; families are torn apart this way. If anyone, even her family, would speak to her or acknowledge she existed on more than one occasion after she was disfellowshipped, a warning would be given and then that person would be disfellowshipped as well) unless they understood that person was making progress towards converting to who they dated. It's influence from "the realm of Satan" (the rest of the world) to JWs, and too great a chance for their flock to be pulled away from lies in to the light.

[Georgia]

The list of conflicts is daunting. If there is one thing I have seen over and over, it is that things that are problems before marriage grow exponentially afterwards.

[jnoelbalana14]

Originally Posted by Khalid

I do not believe that a practicing Jehovah's Witness could be in a relationship with any Christian, let alone a marriage - Catholic most of all, the "Mother of All Whores, Babylon the Great, Pagan Mystery Religion" - unless that person (maybe) was a Christian in name only, and didn't care about religion (although, from the JWs I've seen, they wouldn't settle for a CINO), or if they would convert to Jehovah's Witnessism. Most Muslims are much more favorable towards Christians than JWs are, except JWs for the large part pull away from the world instead of engaging it, except in their rote door-to-door missionary work.

There's a likely chance she's dating you specifically to convert you to JW doctrine. JW is straight from the Pit itself, and none are more hating of Catholics. There's no way her family or her religion would ever approve of dating someone outside of the tradition, unless they understood that person was making progress towards converting to who they dated. It's influence from "the realm of Satan" to JWs, and too great a chance for their flock to be pulled away from lies in to the light.

Thank you for your reply. She don't force me to bible study. She stresses I have the freedom to bible study or not. She tells me that it'll be a big help to understand her faith more and if I "improve",then we can be married right away. She tells me that she'll be waiting for me and she'll not entertain any suitors while I'm studying..

[jnoelbalana14]

Originally Posted by Georgia

The list of conflicts is daunting. If there is one thing I have seen over and over, it is that things that are problems before marriage grow exponentially afterwards.

I'm so confused..

[Tietjen]

Originally Posted by jnoelbalana14

Hi! I'm a devout Catholic. I've recently dated a girl who is a Jehovah's Witness. We love each other very much but religion is really a barrier. Just yesterday,she decided to broke up until I can fully understand her faith more - an allusion the she wishes me to study and eventually convert to her faith. We love each other so much but she's afraid that we can't make it in married life if we are from different religion. I don't want to lose her and it seems the only hope is that I know is to attend their bible studies but I don't think I'll convert to them. Please help.. I need your advices. Thanks alot..

If she loved you, why would she be trying to change you? Let her go.

[jnoelbalana14]

Originally Posted by Tietjen

If she loved you, why would she be trying to change you? Let her go.

Will I I let her go even if we're still inlove with each other?I need your advice..

[Busy bee]

Originally Posted by jnoelbalana14

I know what they believe.I researched so many time about their religion and I've also so JW friends.. .But perhaps they want me to undergo study for me to understand more their faith..

I'm sorry for the way I'm about to sound...
Why are you the one who has to go for the classes? YOU love her enough not to want to lose her, and are willing to do ALMOST ANYTHING!!!

What is she doing so that SHE doesn't lose YOU???

What, don't you have parents? You don't want her to learn and know of the true God? And His son, who is NOT Archangel Michael?

Sorry, the best and slippery option for you is tolerance (the church frowns at this sort of situation and only reluctantly approves the marriage of this sort)

Seriously, I can't blame the girl or her parents - I would do the same if my daughter was going to marry a non-catholic. My sadness and discomfort is due to the fact that it's like Truth leaning towards Untruth.

I beg you to be careful, because it is a sin to knowingly put one's faith in danger by reading/studying materials of a faith contrary to one's own. What's more, I'm truly afraid for you because you sound like you would do many things, including acting like you don't believe what you believe just to be amiable. that attitude spells danger for your faith.
I love you brother and I think I need to pray for you.

[Coolhandlukexx]

The trials of marriage are hard enough without an entire cult trying to dominate you and your faith. Keep the commandments and love God first. There are other fish in the sea. This may sound cold and I know you are conflicted, but if she loves you as much as you love her she would not have such a stipulation. Study my religon that you know is wrong and I will marry you! That is unfair, unequal, and not love. Love me for who I am, but change who you are. 3 years of study, probably under their rules, their bible, their people, this does not sound like love. I am married and converted to my wife's religon (Cathoilc) many years after we were married. She loved me for who I was, and patiently waited for me to find my way. The kicker was this: My children! The wife and kids were going to mass without me, while I sought out other churches and belief systems. One day finally I thought about the example I was setting for them. How could I not be there worshiping with them? Why was I feeling so alone in the random pews I was sitting in? I stumbled into the Catholic church out of love of my family. Are you, knowing the absolute truth that the Catholic church is Gods true church, willing to risk your salvation, and your possible future childrens as well? Be strong! Love God! Have respect for yourself, and recognize true love does not jeopradize your soul.

[jnoelbalana14]

Originally Posted by Busy bee

I'm sorry for the way I'm about to sound...
Why are you the one who has to go for the classes? YOU love her enough not to want to lose her, and are willing to do ALMOST ANYTHING!!!

What is she doing so that SHE doesn't lose YOU???

What, don't you have parents? You don't want her to learn and know of the true God? And His son, who is NOT Archangel Michael?

Sorry, the best and slippery option for you is tolerance (the church frowns at this sort of situation and only reluctantly approves the marriage of this sort)

Seriously, I can't blame the girl or her parents - I would do the same if my daughter was going to marry a non-catholic. My sadness and discomfort is due to the fact that it's like Truth leaning towards Untruth.

I beg you to be careful, because it is a sin to knowingly put one's faith in danger by reading/studying materials of a faith contrary to one's own. What's more, I'm truly afraid for you because you sound like you would do many things, including acting like you don't believe what you believe just to be amiable. that attitude spells danger for your faith.
I love you brother and I think I need to pray for you.

Thank you very much. I'm so depressed and downed at this moment. I fell in love with her so much, so she does to me. She's always emphasizing that she's in love with so much..but she loves Jehovah more..

[DJK100]

Originally Posted by jnoelbalana14

Thank you for your reply. She don't force me to bible study. She stresses I have the freedom to bible study or not. She tells me that it'll be a big help to understand her faith more and if I "improve",then we can be married right away. She tells me that she'll be waiting for me and she'll not entertain any suitors while I'm studying..

"... if I improve..." this is classic manipulation.

[jnoelbalana14]

Originally Posted by Coolhandlukexx

The trials of marriage are hard enough without an entire cult trying to dominate you and your faith. Keep the commandments and love God first. There are other fish in the sea. This may sound cold and I know you are conflicted, but if she loves you as much as you love her she would not have such a stipulation. Study my religon that you know is wrong and I will marry you! That is unfair, unequal, and not love. Love me for who I am, but change who you are. 3 years of study, probably under their rules, their bible, their people, this does not sound like love. I am married and converted to my wife's religon (Cathoilc) many years after we were married. She loved me for who I was, and patiently waited for me to find my way. The kicker was this: My children! The wife and kids were going to mass without me, while I sought out other churches and belief systems. One day finally I thought about the example I was setting for them. How could I not be there worshiping with them? Why was I feeling so alone in the random pews I was sitting in? I stumbled into the Catholic church out of love of my family. Are you, knowing the absolute truth that the Catholic church is Gods true church, willing to risk your salvation, and your possible future childrens as well? Be strong! Love God! Have respect for yourself, and recognize true love does not jeopradize your soul.

Thank you for this helpful advice. I don't want to risk my soul.. I'm planning to talk to her is she's willing to study the Catholicism. Because if not, then even if we're so inlove with each other, we have to let each other go..