Modesty at Home - Page 3

Deo Gratias42 · #31 Feb 5, '12, 8:21 am

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Originally Posted by NSFrame

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We are not an otherwise uptight family, this is just how a lot of people are where I grew up. In the girls' locker room in jr high/high school, we had all sorts of elaborate ways of changing that avoided anyone seeing your underwear, nevermind any body parts.

This is how it was when I was growing up too. I still hate changing in the locker room. When I'm showering after the gym, I change in the shower. I find it exceptionally awkward when there's a naked woman flaunting herself next to me while I'm trying to put on my shoes or something.

As for me, I don't even like walking around my house in my pajamas because it means I'm not wearing a bra, thus less secure. If someone is around, I'll usually put a bulky sweater on over top so I err camouflage that.

Catholic90 · #32 Feb 5, '12, 8:36 am

I wear my PJs around the house a lot. I often get into my PJs around 9 pm, but I am up until 1 or 2 am. On winter weekends I often pull on a hoodie with no bra. My sons will shower and then walk around with a towel around their waist while they are getting ready - rummaging through dryers for clothes, etc. It's no big deal.

garn9173 · #33 Feb 5, '12, 8:58 am

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Originally Posted by SummerSmiles

At my home, it's really a challenge to keep my kids' clothes on. They are 3 and 5. We get home, and immediately they throw everything off except their underwear.

My son was the same way when he was three. Like with all things at that age, it was just a phase.

themeginthemoon · #34 Feb 5, '12, 9:01 am

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Originally Posted by SeaShoreGirl

I'm also finding this thread a bit prudish. 3's and under should enjoy a certian level of unabashed nudity. Its also helpful during potty training.

I dont think there's anything wrong with daughters or sons seeing dad in boxers, or mom braless in a nightie.

In college we'd yell "don't look" and change our clothes with 2-4 other females in the room.

Ditto!

I see nothing wrong with the kiddies have a little air time, of course not when company is around, but in the privacy of home? I don't have a problem with small children streaking from the bathtub to a bedroom to get clothes.

AlltheRoses · #35 Feb 5, '12, 12:08 pm

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Originally Posted by SusanneT

Hi - just something that interests me and I'd love to know how other families deal with it. Are you pyjama people, well a nightie in mine and my daughter's case, but you get the drift. Do you generally avoid nakedness etc in the home, or does anything go.

Our kids are young 2,3 and 6 and we don't make a thing about it, they often wander around naked in the summer and sometimes come in when my husband or I are in the shower etc, but we do generally cover up. We all wear night things and we do prefer the children to wear swimsuits etc even when it's just us - are we very pruddish ?

Everyone in my family wears some sort of pajamas. In the winter, it's sweats and T-shirts for everyone really. In the summer, its shorts and T-shirts for everyone but my brother who prefers to wear just the shorts to bed.

In my family, we always wore swimsuits if we were going out in the kiddie pool or the sprinkler, but I was also raised in the suburbs, so the neighbors could always see what you were doing if they looked out their windows

We always wore more clothes than just diapers in the summer even around the house, but I never really thought of my parents or anything as prudish. We all just seem used to not roaming around without clothes or a bathrobe on.

I've never really slept over at a friend's house where people didn't wear some type of pajamas or walk out of a shower with at least a bathrobe (or a towel) on.

My personal attitude is you don't want to show anything private when leaving your bedroom or your bathroom, and you shouldn't be making anyone uncomfortable by showing them anything they might not want to see when leaving your bedroom or your bathroom. I don't think of it as prudish, but rather common sense and courtesy.

Shondee · #36 Feb 5, '12, 12:14 pm

my grandma had no isses being naked around me when I was little (she raised me) and I just naturally grew to know when it waws time to start covering. no biggie.

I have no isses being naked around female company. cousins the same age, or friends. Once you have your best gal pal over eeevery single saturday night and sleep in the same bed for 3 years, seeing each others breats while you're changing is so not a big deal.

VeritasLuxMea · #37 Feb 5, '12, 12:56 pm

It's only me and my wife in the home right now, so we wear whatever as long as we're not expecting company. If we're alone and just lounging, sometimes I'll wear boxers and an undershirt and that's about it.

dixieagle · #38 Feb 5, '12, 6:34 pm

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Originally Posted by VeritasLuxMea

It's only me and my wife in the home right now, so we wear whatever as long as we're not expecting company. If we're alone and just lounging, sometimes I'll wear boxers and an undershirt and that's about it.

I'll be sure to call if we're going to drop in on you.

VeritasLuxMea · #39 Feb 5, '12, 8:23 pm

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Originally Posted by dixieagle

I'll be sure to call if we're going to drop in on you.

It does make for some awkward times when the doorbell rings and you have to get yourself in order. That said, I find it worth it.

CuriousInIL · #40 Feb 16, '12, 7:58 am

I remember a "joke" on a sitcom once where an older woman said that she had been taught as a girl that a female should never be seen naked except by her parents or her brothers and sisters. She also believed that all persons were "brothers and sisters."

collegeboy · #41 Feb 16, '12, 8:11 am

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Originally Posted by Allegra

The surprising thing is this is the same aunt who came down on me once for saying "butt" in front of her kids. Frankly, I'd rather kids say it then see it.

maryjk · #42 Feb 16, '12, 8:35 am

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Originally Posted by SeaShoreGirl

I'm also finding this thread a bit prudish. 3's and under should enjoy a certian level of unabashed nudity. Its also helpful during potty training.

I dont think there's anything wrong with daughters or sons seeing dad in boxers, or mom braless in a nightie.

In college we'd yell "don't look" and change our clothes with 2-4 other females in the room.

My son showered with me until he was about 3, then he showered with Dad.

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Originally Posted by Deo Gratias42

This is how it was when I was growing up too. I still hate changing in the locker room. When I'm showering after the gym, I change in the shower. I find it exceptionally awkward when there's a naked woman flaunting herself next to me while I'm trying to put on my shoes or something.

As for me, I don't even like walking around my house in my pajamas because it means I'm not wearing a bra, thus less secure. If someone is around, I'll usually put a bulky sweater on over top so I err camouflage that.

I live in an all male household. So I bought a number of cheap "sports" bras at Wal-Mart. They come in packs of 3. I pull one of those on, under my pj's. That way I am not, well obvious. It makes me feel more secure and I am pretty covered in case someone knocks at the door.

MissRose73 · #43 Feb 18, '12, 5:20 am

My mother raised me and my sister with a good deal of modesty but my sister went away from it as a teenager. From time to time, yes me and/or my sister has seen our mother naked but it was only her in the bathroom preparing to shower or if she had to leave the bathroom after a shower if she forgot something (or asked us to get it for her then bring it to her).

I became self conscious when changing clothes in the locker rooms after gym classes starting around age 11/12 as I was a late bloomer. To this day, I am not fond of changing clothes even around other women now but I do so as quickly as possible.

My sister is now a parent to a boy and a girl. The kids know better to change clothes behind closed doors and to keep backs turned & not look at others changing clothes in public locker rooms.

tgauchsin · #44 Feb 18, '12, 6:53 am

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Originally Posted by VeritasLuxMea

It's only me and my wife in the home right now, so we wear whatever as long as we're not expecting company. If we're alone and just lounging, sometimes I'll wear boxers and an undershirt and that's about it.

This is exactly my situation. I come home from work and it's into skivvies. DW wishes I would wear more around the house - wife and kids are dressed like they are ready to go out at any time - but it is what I am comfortable with wearing. I should have her read these threads. I am sure she would appreciate my attire better and be thankful that at least I'm not walking around the house in the buff.

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Originally Posted by VeritasLuxMea

It does make for some awkward times when the doorbell rings and you have to get yourself in order. That said, I find it worth it.

LOL. **Doorbell** DW looks out the peep hole and says to me:

It's (our neighbor from across the street), or
My dad is here, or
Honey, some shady looking salesman is at the door, can you answer it?

Running through my head: "Oh !@#$%, where did I leave my sweats?"

Mary Gail 36 · #45 Feb 18, '12, 9:41 am

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Originally Posted by CuriousInIL

I remember a "joke" on a sitcom once where an older woman said that she had been taught as a girl that a female should never be seen naked except by her parents or her brothers and sisters. She also believed that all persons were "brothers and sisters."

Golden Girls? Sounds familiar.