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Old Mar 18, '12, 2:38 pm
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Default How to get rid of lustful thoughts and HATE masturbation.. FOREVER

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I was wondering,, is it possible to get rid of sexual thoughts once and for all?? Instead of always praying it away, only to go back again?? I am sorry to say this, but the strategy of constant prayer seems to only be a temporary measure (yes even the rosary which I say everyday) and I am sick of this cycle. Even so.. I still feel lustful after praying alot? A priest told me not to find myself in a situation of boredom and go distract and divert my attention elsewhere.. like go workout or play video games but I believe that this is really just a band-aid solution. I just want to get to the root cause of it. I just want it to be gone once and for all... why is this so hard for guys?? . I want to be pure because I know the pure will see God, but it isnt easy.

Also.. I am beggining to become more convinced that asexuality is the only solution and not being attracted to the opposite sex AT all is the once-and-for-all solution to this. Essentially the denial of my manhood... how does one start in becoming asexual? Take estrogen or something?? (im very masculine btw)

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Old Mar 18, '12, 3:01 pm
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Also, I dont plan to get married anytime soon.. I want to grab a few degrees, get a proper career, and do stuff before I chain myself down. What am I supposed to do till then? Just hold out like a ticking time bomb? GUYS please respond.
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Old Mar 18, '12, 3:20 pm
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Hello..

I was wondering,, is it possible to get rid of sexual thoughts once and for all?? Instead of always praying it away, only to go back again?? I am sorry to say this, but the strategy of constant prayer seems to only be a temporary measure (yes even the rosary which I say everyday) and I am sick of this cycle. Even so.. I still feel lustful after praying alot? A priest told me not to find myself in a situation of boredom and go distract and divert my attention elsewhere.. like go workout or play video games but I believe that this is really just a band-aid solution. I just want to get to the root cause of it. I just want it to be gone once and for all... why is this so hard for guys?? . I want to be pure because I know the pure will see God, but it isnt easy.
Well, you can't forget images but you can reject them. You can't get rid of them once and for all but you can get rid of them every time they pop out. This is a cross that many of us have to carry. I was having trouble sleeping cuz images started to pop out like crazy and I prayed and prayed and while praying they tried to get in...I couldn't sleep at all. But, I've learned that I'm not sinning when they pop and I reject them. Also, I got tired of punching the wall every time an impure thought came to mind. So I looked for another way, I say out loud: "FATHER, PLEASE, DON'T LET SATAN BUG ME!" and I take a deep breathe and do some work here and there, talk to God (it works way better if you talk out loud), you sing to the Lord. You can reject your impure thought by thinking that YOUR FATHER, GOD, IS JUST RIGHT THERE, with his hand on your head. And you smile because you know He's there.
Carry with you a pic of Christ covered in blood and see how painful it was His PASSION. That is love, you see Him like that and you see that He's all hurt because of love for you and me, to save us. So we can someday be by his side, forever.

Also, say the LONG version of St. Michael prayer OUT LOUD, SLOWLY.


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Also, I dont plan to get married anytime soon.. I want to grab a few degrees, get a proper career, and do stuff before I chain myself down. What am I supposed to do till then? Just hold out like a ticking time bomb? GUYS please respond.
Hold out like a ticking time bomb. It will be worth it.
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Old Mar 18, '12, 3:25 pm
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Also, I dont plan to get married anytime soon.. I want to grab a few degrees, get a proper career, and do stuff before I chain myself down. What am I supposed to do till then? Just hold out like a ticking time bomb? GUYS please respond.
Just a note ... degrees, careers and doing stuff is the world. Marriage is a sacrament of the Church. What do you think you are placing first in your life?

Think about your priorities. If you are struggling with this issue, perhaps you should refocus your priorities according to how you can keep closer to the sacraments?

The world has its goals for you, but so does Christ.
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Old Mar 18, '12, 3:27 pm
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There are many reasons.. First, I want to be a learn-ed individual that can actually make a difference in the world and I truly do believe that I can do this by being more educated. The more influence you have, the greater the lasting difference you can make.

Secondly... I want to be able to provide for my future family and make sure that I am ready for that BIG responsibility. I dont want to be a half-assed father. Besides, why do I have to feel pressured to get married at somebody else's schedule and not my own?? Obviously I am going to end up getting married, but there is no rule that says when I should. Ill do that at my own pace, thank you.

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Just a note ... degrees, careers and doing stuff is the world. Marriage is a sacrament of the Church. What do you think you are placing first in your life?

Think about your priorities. If you are struggling with this issue, perhaps you should refocus your priorities according to how you can keep closer to the sacraments?

The world has its goals for you, but so does Christ.
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Old Mar 18, '12, 3:48 pm
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Pray the rosary constantly

Also, stay away from the television, I know that sounds weird but it's true, their is a lot of sexually explicit commercials that could cause you to have those thoughts. Read the bible, meditate constantly on scripture; any passage that pops into your mind, and say "Jesus I trust in you" whenever you feel dragged into temptation.

You are in my prayers

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Old Mar 18, '12, 3:57 pm
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There are many reasons.. First, I want to be a learn-ed individual that can actually make a difference in the world and I truly do believe that I can do this by being more educated. The more influence you have, the greater the lasting difference you can make.

Secondly... I want to be able to provide for my future family and make sure that I am ready for that BIG responsibility. I dont want to be a half-assed father. Besides, why do I have to feel pressured to get married at somebody else's schedule and not my own?? Obviously I am going to end up getting married, but there is no rule that says when I should. Ill do that at my own pace, thank you.
Think about how all this isn't really about you and God, but about you and the world. You are seeking personal accolades and following your own schedule rather than seeking the sacraments and following God's will.

Forgive me if I have misread you.

The world is lust, God is love. Steer clear of the world, stay close to the sacraments.
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Old Mar 18, '12, 4:19 pm
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I know that going to Confession regularly helps with habitual sins that are hard to break. Does your parish or neighboring parish offer Eucharistic Adoration throughout the week? I know that from the experience of others (never tried this myself) that it is effective in strengthening in purity.

Just remember that you might not be able to easily rid yourself of this sin, especially if you have been doing it quite often. You may build yourself up and fall back down, but that's why Our Lord waits in the Sacrament of Penance. It's Lent, so you should have a plethora of opportunites to avail yourself to this sacrament. It definately has helped me.

Another thing I recommend is turning off the computer or other electronics when you go to bed, or stay in a public place or less private place in your house until you go to bed; it gives you less of an opportunity to commit this sin.

If you have thoughts of impurity or masturbation, just think of Our Lord and how he suffered for us and how this sin hurts him deeply. Our Lady said that people get sent to hell continuously for the sins of impurity. Also, think of how you will feel afterward. You will feel like dirt for doing this sin. It's not worth it.
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There are many reasons.. First, I want to be a learn-ed individual that can actually make a difference in the world and I truly do believe that I can do this by being more educated. The more influence you have, the greater the lasting difference you can make.

Secondly... I want to be able to provide for my future family and make sure that I am ready for that BIG responsibility. I dont want to be a half-assed father. Besides, why do I have to feel pressured to get married at somebody else's schedule and not my own?? Obviously I am going to end up getting married, but there is no rule that says when I should. Ill do that at my own pace, thank you.
Half-assed father? I make 30k a year and am married and have a son who would never agree with me being a "half-assed father". We aren't rich but we make ends meet. But anyways, lol. I feel you on the impure thoughts man. It frustrates me beyond belief. I find the more Often I go to mass, the easier it is.
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Hello..

I was wondering,, is it possible to get rid of sexual thoughts once and for all?? Instead of always praying it away, only to go back again?? I am sorry to say this, but the strategy of constant prayer seems to only be a temporary measure (yes even the rosary which I say everyday) and I am sick of this cycle. Even so.. I still feel lustful after praying alot? A priest told me not to find myself in a situation of boredom and go distract and divert my attention elsewhere.. like go workout or play video games but I believe that this is really just a band-aid solution. I just want to get to the root cause of it. I just want it to be gone once and for all... why is this so hard for guys?? . I want to be pure because I know the pure will see God, but it isnt easy.

Also.. I am beggining to become more convinced that asexuality is the only solution and not being attracted to the opposite sex AT all is the once-and-for-all solution to this. Essentially the denial of my manhood... how does one start in becoming asexual? Take estrogen or something?? (im very masculine btw)
Lust is not a feeling. If by "lust," you are refering to feeling sexually aroused or feeling sexually attracted to someone than this is not lust unless you are forcing the feeling for your pleasure.
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Lilsheep88 we've been through this a couple of times before. It's all on you brother. There is no prayer, no novena, no amount of praying the rosary, nor going to confession that is going to stop you. It's on you brother to see what you're doing is wrong, and make up your mind you're not going to do. Been there. I will say I have problems with other vices. I know it's not easy. So good luck.

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God's grace is still the remedy... as long as you're willing to cooperate with it. Keep going to confession, making sure that you intend NOT to commit the sin anymore when you go. I know of a good priest who's been hearing confessions for 50 years, who's said that he never knew of anyone who struggled with some sin who could not overcome it in the end by means of frequent confession. And of course Holy Communion in the state of grace. Have you made it a habit to pray before the tabernacle? That's the secret the saints knew. And meditate every day on the Passion of Our Lord and all He suffered for your salvation.

It does get easier over time, I assure you. Contrary to what you might think, as you condition your body to go without, the temptation will gradually get weaker.

I'll be praying for you.
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Don't panic, you will masturbate, feel guilty, go to confession over and over again.

Until the reason to not do these things becomes stronger than the desire, you'll fail.

Your young with raging hormones and in another time and place, you'd probably already have a mate and a few kids.

However, our body doesn't put things on hold because you have career goals.

So, stay faithful to Jesus, he really understands.

And trust me, as you age, get married and become wiser, your body will settle down and you'll havee better control.

THat all being said, stay away from porn sites. Just consider the type of people who work in the industry, and understand, they'll stop at nothing, to get money from you.

Always stay centered in Jesus Christ and you;ll be alright.


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Don't desire asexuality. First, I'm not sure that this is something that can really be attained unless there are hormonal problems (and you probably don't want hormonal problems). Asexuality can not be the solution as this would inevitably lead to the end of humanity. And knowing God, that probably isn't the way he wants us to deal with lust.

I say find a good prayer and pray it whenever lust creeps into your mind. If that fails you, go to confession. Even Paul had a thorn in his side. You will have your imperfections. These imperfections need to be fought against, not ran from (which is what asexuality does). Good luck and God bless.

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I was wondering,, is it possible to get rid of sexual thoughts once and for all?? Instead of always praying it away, only to go back again?? I am sorry to say this, but the strategy of constant prayer seems to only be a temporary measure (yes even the rosary which I say everyday) and I am sick of this cycle.
Constant prayer will be needed the rest of your life. No one overcomes temptations coming from hell without praying. If you pray now and not tomorrow, tomorrow is a battle you will lose. No one can resist temptations without praying. No one. Every person has a sin they cannot conquer by themselves. Only prayer makes the difference.

"Because we are human, we are not strong. Because we are not strong, we pray."
- St. Augustine of Hippo

"Prayer is a battle. Against whom? Against ourselves and against the wiles of the tempter who does all he can to turn man away from prayer, away from union with God. We pray as we live, because we live as we pray."

-Catechism of The Catholic Church, article 2, battle of prayer 2725.

Now that I have stated my point I must say that its not just praying once and stopping. Its about constant prayer. Every day.

In my own experience (of course, it may not apply to you) I masturbated myself for 7 years. I truly was unable to escape sin. I did so many things to stop but none worked. And I am still the same weak person as I was back then except that one single thing changed. I started praying the Rosary everyday. And since then, I have not done this horrible sin. When I realized how powerful the Rosary is, and that without it I would literally fall into temptation again, I pledged to pray it for the rest of my life (Dec 8 and 12). 1 everyday until I die. Because 1 has been sufficient since then. If I fail to pray one day, for whatever reason it may be, then the next day I pray 2. That way one Rosary will cover each day for the rest of my life. I'm 21 and have already promised such, because I (in my experience) acknowledge that without this prayer I am weak. Very I would say. With it, I do overcome sin. This same is been said my various Saints.

Again, nothing else worked except a Rosary a day. Some have said that going to daily mass or to visit the Holy Sacrament everyday keep away mortal sins too. Im sure it does. So far though I feel very comfortable praying the rosary, and I highly doubt that if you pray it everyday you will continue to have this sin. If it worked for me, it certainly can work for you. I was a slave of it for 7 years. I went to confession every 2 weeks. I once thought it was impossible to get out of there. But one day with the power of the rosary, I simply did.
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