Prayers needed marriage on the rocks - Page 2

Catholic1954 · #16 Apr 20, '12, 11:45 am

Leaving him for a year, while you marriage is in such a fragile state, will just make it easier for him to walk out on you and the children for good in a few months. If you want to remain married, you must be there, take a stand and fight for your husband and family.

odhiambo · #17 Apr 21, '12, 3:03 am

Sacred Heart of Jesus
I place my trust in Thee

Sacred Heart of Jesus
I place my trust in Thee

Sacred Heart of Jesus
I place my trust in Thee

JJJeff · #18 Apr 21, '12, 9:31 pm

We need to unite all of our sufferings with Jesus. He has endured every human suffering and was victorious. Through His Spirit we will overcome them. He will bless us with strength and virtues, through our endurance.

I have been married for twelve years, and have five young child. I’ve always known it was wrong to commit adultery or seek divorce, but it was only about three ago, that I truly began to understand what marriage actually was. We make many sacrifices during marriage for both our spouses and our children. This is truly sanctifying, for everyone.
Most couples today believe a marriage ceremony is when they make a “proclamation” of their “love” for each other, and the promise to “feel” that way forever. Attraction is usually what brings us together, and this is a good thing, however the “to love” in the marriage sacrament, is a verb. The ceremony is about “giving” yourself entirely to the other person, for the rest of your life, regardless of how you are compensated. Jesus said “give without expecting anything in return.” It is assumed at the ceremony that if each person gives themselves totally to each other, than the relationship should not be “one sided” however it often is. It is usually the person who truly gives of themselves (one like yourself), that ends up saving a marriage. You are truly “blessed” with the patience to endure what you already have, and to offer forgiveness to your husband. Most people think adultery is an automatic annulment of the marriage, or reason to get divorced. People make mistakes, some bigger than others.
Pray for your husband, for his conversion.
Go to mass often. Try to get your husband to use the sacraments if possible. (confession/Eucharist).
Read writings of the Saints for guidance. (there are books specifically written about the true meaning of marriage, that may help you discover ways to help your husband understand). Pray for their intercession. Use sacramental’s in your home (e.g. holy water, oils, relics, etc.) Marriage counselling is good. If he has agreed to go, this is some hope.
I will offer prayers for you and your husband.

JJJeff

jacel311 · #19 Apr 22, '12, 1:47 pm

Chavez00,

My heart and prayers go out to you. I am in a similar situation with my husband and three young children. He has had emotional infidelity while dealing with a very difficult chronic illness so I can understand some of the turmoil you're living with every day.

I think you've received some excellent advice on forgiveness. That is what my husband and I are focusing on now: forgiving each other and being more open and communicative. It's a start. The marriage counseling is also a good start. Go with your gut and pray, pray, PRAY like you've never prayed before. Praying the Divine Mercy Chaplet and the rosary has been my stronghold. I've turned my prayer requests to the Holy Family. St. Joseph, Mother Mary, of course Jesus and all the saints (Padre Pio, St. Rita, St. Jude, St. Monica, etc) are excellent beacons of faith who can intercede for us to God.

Even if you're feeling you're doing this alone, God will give you the grace to continue. I agree that moving out for a year may not be the best approach to saving your marriage. Talk with your husband every day; tell him how hurt you are by his actions. Ask him for forgiveness for your faults in the situation (even if you feel you're the victim) and let him know you're forgiving him every...single...day. This is a long and painful process and if you're in it for the long run, which it sounds like you wish to be, then God will carry you through it. Turn your eyes to Him. Have Faith.

Pray, Hope and don't worry ~ St. Padre Pio.

odhiambo · #20 Apr 22, '12, 11:54 pm

Sacred Heart of Jesus
We place our trust in Thee

Sacred Heart of Jesus
We place our trust in Thee

Sacred Heart of Jesus
We place our trust in Thee

odhiambo · #21 Apr 24, '12, 1:11 am

Remember, O most loving Virgin Mary,
that never was it known,
that anyone who fled to your protection,
implored your help, or sought your intercession,
was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence,
though burdened by my sins,
I fly to you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother.
To you I come, before you I stand,
sinful and sorrowful.
O Mother of the Word Incarnate,
despise not my petitions, but in your mercy,
hear and answer me.
Amen.