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Old Dec 30, '12, 5:59 am
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Post Gay daughter - keeping a loving connection

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Hello all - I am hoping to find some support and advice with this site. I don't know where to turn for advice with sound Catholic principals. My daughter is gay, and just got engaged. We have always had a open, loving dialogue, and she knows I love her, but do not approve of the gay lifestyle, or accept gay marriage as valid. I do not want to alienate her, or feel that I have to change my moral beliefs in order to be supportive of her. Any insights or advice will be appreciated.
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What is that saying... "Love the sinner, hate the sin"? Just keep loving her and pray for her. Whatever you do, don't ever give the idea that you are changing your views to suit her lifestyle, but also don't make her feel that you don't love her anymore. That is one of the most difficult things I have had to do with my friends who are gay ~~ convincing them that I DO still love them and I don't care that they are gay, and that the problem I have is when they ACT on it. From my understanding, being gay is not sinful in itself; it is the homosexual act that makes it sinful (just as sex outside of marriage is a sin for heterosexual people!) and that gay people are called to a life of chastity. Much easier said than done, so keep praying for her and I will pray for you both!
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What is that saying... "Love the sinner, hate the sin"? Just keep loving her and pray for her. Whatever you do, don't ever give the idea that you are changing your views to suit her lifestyle, but also don't make her feel that you don't love her anymore. That is one of the most difficult things I have had to do with my friends who are gay ~~ convincing them that I DO still love them and I don't care that they are gay, and that the problem I have is when they ACT on it. From my understanding, being gay is not sinful in itself; it is the homosexual act that makes it sinful (just as sex outside of marriage is a sin for heterosexual people!) and that gay people are called to a life of chastity. Much easier said than done, so keep praying for her and I will pray for you both!
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Old Dec 30, '12, 8:58 am
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The best advice I can give is to find out about the organization Courage and EnCouorage. Both could be helpful.
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We have the same problem and as far as I am concerned you do not have to change your lifestyle one iota. Continue on with your religious belief's as an example - always loving her and abhoring the sin - mutual respect is the order of the day here. In our case, our daughter even comes to Mass with us on occasion, so please never give up hope.
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Edit: somehow posted a response to a completely different thread... oops...
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Well, I could really use some but instead I'll just the day away...
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I think you posted this on the wrong thread.
I did...not sure how I managed that... but I just fixed... perhaps you could too.
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