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Old Sep 15, '05, 9:17 pm
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I need help with wording my wedding invitations. I need to know how to word a catholic invitation, I would like the sacrament of matrimony to be on the invitations instead of just marriage. I am a new catholic please help.
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Mr. and Mrs. John Alan Smith request the honour of your presence
at the Nuptial Mass
at which their daughter
Mary Anne
and
Mr. Joseph Micheal Jones
will be united in the
Sacrament of Holy Matrimony
etc.
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Old Sep 15, '05, 9:43 pm
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I would like the sacrament of matrimony to be on the invitations instead of just marriage. I am a new catholic please help.
Godīs Blessings to you and your soon to be husband!
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Old Sep 16, '05, 6:51 am
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I need help with wording my wedding invitations. I need to know how to word a catholic invitation, I would like the sacrament of matrimony to be on the invitations instead of just marriage. I am a new catholic please help.
It is important to remember that this is first and foremost the celebration of the Sacrament of Matrimony. The Wedding is really just the wrapping on the package.
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Old Sep 17, '05, 6:20 pm
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You can also use the standard:


Doctor and Mrs. Thomas Dooley

Request the honour of your presence


At the Nuptial Mass of their daughter


Jane deChantal

and


Mr. William James

on

Saturday, June Sixteenth
Two-thousand-six
at seven-thirty o'clock



at

Our Lady of Perpetual Responsibility Church
25 Main Street
Lake Wobegone, Minnesota


Favor of a reply is requested
17 Chandler Road
Lake Wobegone, Minnesota 55314
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Old Sep 17, '05, 6:23 pm
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Mr. and Mrs. John Alan Smith request the honour of your presence
at the Nuptial Mass
at which their daughter
Mary Anne
and
Mr. Joseph Micheal Jones
will be united in the
Sacrament of Holy Matrimony
etc.
I'd go with this one!
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I found this old thread through a Google search so thought I'd resurrect it instead of starting a new one. Does anyone know how I could word my wedding invitations so as not to have the Mr. and Mrs. Soandso requesting the presence of visitors, etc.? That might be kind of odd in our case since neither my parents nor my fiance's are behind the wedding.

But whatever the best, most simple and traditional way the wording can be, that's what we'll go with. I have some Catholic cards and we were going to just handwrite the invites.

Also, if it helps, this is going to be a very small wedding (after Mass, not during) at a Cathedral w/o a catered reception. There's going to be a cake and champagne and I think everyone's going out to dinner afterwards. Since it's not a big affair I'm not putting pressure on anyone to come, but I wanted to send invites to everyone who we'd like to come.
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Old Oct 6, '09, 6:01 am
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How about

God willing,
Mary Jones and John Smith
will be united in the Holy Sacrament of Matrimony
[celebrated at a Nuptual Mass]
at St. Jonah in the Whale Catholic Church
on Date
and Time.
Your presence and prayers are requested.
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Old Oct 6, '09, 6:30 am
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I found this old thread through a Google search so thought I'd resurrect it instead of starting a new one. Does anyone know how I could word my wedding invitations so as not to have the Mr. and Mrs. Soandso requesting the presence of visitors, etc.? That might be kind of odd in our case since neither my parents nor my fiance's are behind the wedding.

But whatever the best, most simple and traditional way the wording can be, that's what we'll go with. I have some Catholic cards and we were going to just handwrite the invites.

Also, if it helps, this is going to be a very small wedding (after Mass, not during) at a Cathedral w/o a catered reception. There's going to be a cake and champagne and I think everyone's going out to dinner afterwards. Since it's not a big affair I'm not putting pressure on anyone to come, but I wanted to send invites to everyone who we'd like to come.
Since you are handwriting your invitation, be personal. I'm not completely sure I understand your marriage plans, but if I have it right you are exchanging vows in the Cathedral after a regularly scheduled Mass.

If so, I would write:

Dear Bob and Judy,

Please join us as we unite in the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony (if both are Catholic and/or baptized... if not simply say "united in marriage") We will exchange vows immediately following the XYZ Mass at such-and-such Cathedral on Sunday, November X, 2010. We will celebrate afterwards with champagne and cake in the church hall. We'd also love for you to join us for dinner afterwards at XYZ Restaurant. (If it's pay your own, say that in the invite).

Sincerely,

ac claire and fiance
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Old Oct 6, '09, 9:05 am
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ac claire, I also recommend getting a copy of Crane's Blue Book. It is THE book on invitations, formal notes, informal notes, etc.
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How about (this is pretty traditional and formal):

Katherine Anne Jones
and
Robert John Smith
request the honour of your presence
as they receive the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony
on Saturday, the twenty-fifth of November
two thousand nine
at half after five o'clock in the afternoon
Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception
Atlanta, Georgia
and afterwards at the reception
Cathedral Hall

I think handwritten invitations are lovely, and the Catholic cards are quite appropriate. Even though it is a small wedding, nice handwritten cards and formal wording can be quite elegant, if that's what you like.

God bless you and best wishes!
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Old Oct 7, '09, 3:49 am
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The form of words probably ought to reflect who is paying for the wedding as that should dictate who it is that is actually making the invitation and to whom the reply ought to be addressed.

Some modern forms of invitation are issued from the couple themselves rather than the older, and more traditional parents of the bride (who had always stumpped up the dosh in the past). There have been a few good examples of wording for an invite from the bride's parents, but in this day and age, it's not uncommon for invitations to be issued from the groom's parents, or (as I've said) from the bride and groom themselves.

I'd suggest having a look around the old interweb for some examples. Google John Lewis or Dickens and Jones (two up market department stores in the UK) as they do wedding stationery and probably have some examples of the format. You can play about with the wording to your hearts content then.
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Thank you guys so much for the ideas! Yeah, we are getting married in the Cathedral after the Vigil Mass. I think we're going to do something similar to this:

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Since you are handwriting your invitation, be personal....Dear Bob and Judy,

Please join us as we unite in the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony (if both are Catholic and/or baptized... if not simply say "united in marriage") We will exchange vows immediately following the XYZ Mass at such-and-such Cathedral on Sunday, November X, 2010. We will celebrate afterwards with champagne and cake in the church hall. We'd also love for you to join us for dinner afterwards at XYZ Restaurant. (If it's pay your own, say that in the invite).

Sincerely,

ac claire and fiance
We may add a few points from the more formal formats yall have posted, but keeping the informal tone. I have one more question maybe yall can help me with. About this part:

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We'd also love for you to join us for dinner afterwards at XYZ Restaurant. (If it's pay your own, say that in the invite).
Ok so is there a graceful way to express this in the invite? I'm struggling with this one.
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Old Oct 7, '09, 7:13 am
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Ok so is there a graceful way to express this in the invite? I'm struggling with this one.
This would be referred to as a "no host" dinner. And, "join us" should be enough to let them know they are paying, as opposed to "be our guest at dinner" which would imply you are paying.

But, your friends might not know what "no host" means, nor pick up on subtle wording.

So, I would suggest something like one of these:

We would love it if you could join us for a no host dinner afterwards at XYZ restaurant. Dress is ___ and entrees start at X dollars.

We would love to have you join us for dinner aftewards. XYZ restaraunt offers casual dining and menu choices in many price ranges.

Join us for a Dutch treat dinner afterwards, at XYZ restaurant.
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