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Old Jun 19, '17, 2:31 pm
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I suggest you talk to your pastor who knows your situation for the bigger issue of keeping your conversion from your mother.

As to attending their service, there can be reasons to do so and this sounds like one of them. Don't participate in their communion.
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Don't participate in their communion.
That I know not to do. I'll just pass the tray of grape juice over to the next person.
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I suggest you talk to your pastor who knows your situation for the bigger issue of keeping your conversion from your mother.

As to attending their service, there can be reasons to do so and this sounds like one of them. Don't participate in their communion.
This. Family situations can be delicate. It would probably be better to seek advice from someone to whom you can lay out the whole story rather than simply talking to people on the internet.
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Just do not receive their communion. (That'll get mom wondering, won't it.)

I agree that talking with your priest beforehand is probably best regarding the situation with your mother and hiding your Catholic faith from her.

Prayers for you. Strength of Christ be with you.
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One of the passages which came to mind when I read your post was Luke 14:26.

“If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple." ESV

While we don't take it in literal context as it were, the concept behind it is that we must have the thought that following Christ fully may lead to leaving behind those things which we previously put before Him.

A few verses earlier (Luke 9:59) Jesus tells a man who wants to bury his father to let the dead bury the dead. While it is thought that the man's father was aged, rather than having recently dead, the point was "if you are not ready to leave your old life behind, you are not ready to follow me". (Look up Muslim convert stories on YouTube for perspective and examples).

It doesn't mean we ignore our family for the faith, but does mean we stand in our faith with those around us.

I would encourage you to not waste this opportunity for contemplation, questioning and spiritual growth. As was suggested a conversation about your thoughts with your Pastor would be a good idea.

Good luck in your journey!
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This. Family situations can be delicate. It would probably be better to seek advice from someone to whom you can lay out the whole story rather than simply talking to people on the internet.
I agree. On a message board you'll get a lot of [ahem] .... bad responses.

Please speak to your pastor. He'll be able to best help you through this.
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Just do not receive their communion. (That'll get mom wondering, won't it.)

I agree that talking with your priest beforehand is probably best regarding the situation with your mother and hiding your Catholic faith from her.

Prayers for you. Strength of Christ be with you.
The church she goes to only has memorial communion once a month or something like that.

But if I happen to be there when they are distributing the commemorative food items, then I guess things will have to come to a clash at that point.
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I can, somewhat sympathize with you. I had one of my sons fall away from the Catholic church. He turned protestant then found a really nice widow lady to marry. She is also protestant.

I had to tell him I could not attend his wedding or the reception. I told him that I would never again throw my church "under the bus". ( I checked with our traditional Catholic priest). So now several years later a grandson from another son, who is baptized Catholic, is marrying outside the church. I told him I can not go. Talk about a "hissy-fit". I told him that I still love him but he is hurt.

All I can do is pray for him. Life can be tough.
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If they ask, I will tell them I'm Catholic. But no one knows I go to Catholic Mass. There's no occasion to ask.
Why would you tell them you are Catholic, but not let them know you are going to
Catholic Mass? Do they think you are a non- practicing Catholic?
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The church she goes to only has memorial communion once a month or something like that.

But if I happen to be there when they are distributing the commemorative food items, then I guess things will have to come to a clash at that point.
May I ask what denomination she belongs to?
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Why would you tell them you are Catholic, but not let them know you are going to
Catholic Mass? Do they think you are a non- practicing Catholic?
I haven't told them I am Catholic yet. When I mentioned going to Mass, it was before I was Catholic "officially".
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I agree with the Deacon here.
At some point you'll have to man up and tell her the truth.
Tell her that what she has been taught about Catholics is, in fact, false.
She may not believe it because that's all she knows. But tell her you have to account for your own soul, and you have chosen your path. Ask her if she still loves you.
You may be surprised. I'll bet she says "of course".
Good luck. Ask the Holy Spirit to give you the words.
If you lie about your conversion, or otherwise try to hide it, you will only reinforce whatever negativity they have about Catholicism. Like you are ashamed. No bueno.

Your faith should bring you joy. Not this.
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May I ask what denomination she belongs to?
A non-denominational Protestant church. From what I gather, a group of members from the old church (that I belonged to maybe 15 years ago) joined another existing church.

In her mind, she is doing a good thing by joining others in helping to grow the newer, smaller church. It's church planting/sheep stealing depending on how you look at it. It's a bit bizarre now that I'm Catholic...

They're borrowing a church building from Seventh Day Adventists who don't use the building on Sundays.
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I haven't told them I am Catholic yet. When I mentioned going to Mass, it was before I was Catholic "officially".
I am confused by your original post then? They don't know you are STILL Catholic?
This post you say you haven't told them you are Catholic yet. Could you give a little bit more background on your faith journey? Sometime the truth will have to come out.
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A non-denominational Protestant church. From what I gather, a group of members from the old church (that I belonged to maybe 15 years ago) joined another existing church.

In her mind, she is doing a good thing by joining others in helping to grow the newer, smaller church. It's church planting/sheep stealing depending on how you look at it. It's a bit bizarre now that I'm Catholic...

They're borrowing a church building from Seventh Day Adventists who don't use the building on Sundays.
I can understand that. I once joined a new Anglican parish after they broke
away from an Episcopal church. I felt like I was doing something good, but I also knew I couldn't waste anytime being protestant and a month later I began my journey to be
Catholic. That was over 9 years ago!
So you think your mother might be ashamed to introduce you as Catholic or she is very
anti-Catholic?
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