[BIBLEDRB]…3 Let the husband render the debt to his wife, and the wife also in like manner to the husband. 4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband. And in like manner the husband also hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5 Defraud not one another, except, perhaps, by consent, for a time, that you may give yourselves to prayer; and return together again, lest Satan tempt you for your incontinency. [/BIBLEDRB]
Regarding the above quoted chapter/verse in the Bible…As I understand it to mean that the Husband and Wife should not deny sex (with out a good reason like health, ect) unless mutually agreed upon.
I’d be more than happy to have sex with my wife every day (or more!). There have been many times where my wife is not interested in sex on a particular night for no specific reason, just not “in the mood”. She has often said she is willing to do it, just for me asking that I “Just be quick”
Now, I’m conflicted. I feel like if I do it while she is clearly not interested and just willing to because of her love for me and wanting me to be satisfied I am objectifying her which I know to be sinful. How would this act meet the ‘unitive’ requirement?
If I say no and just don’t do it because I know she is really not interested and I don’t want to objectify her I feel like I’m denying myself something that she is willingly offering and Biblically I’m “entitled” to (I feel entitled to is a bad choice of words here but I don’t know how else to put it).
Thoughts? Comments? Anything?