First I should say that I recently discovered this online Catholic community. I have been reading lots of posts and am very appreciative of this forum....now onto my issue.
As the title mentions, I am a married man who is married to a non-Catholic and overall non-Believer (been married 1 1/2 years). I have shared in great detail my Catholic Faith and she has attended mass with me quite a bit early on in our relationship. We currently are parents of a 5 year old daughter who has been in Catholic Pre-Schools for the past 3 years and whom I am doing my best to raise Catholic. She was baptized and my wife is respectful of me sharing my faith with my daughter. However, she wants me to be accepting of her unbelief as well, which overall I do.
My situation is a bit complicated for a number of reasons. First, my wife and I were not married in a Catholic church though I tried to be. The reason we weren't because of her. She was not willing to go through the classes and time it would take. Before I asked her to marry I realized there would be issues in our marriage as my Catholic faith is something very true and dear to me and her being absolutely unbending on her unbelief. However, I married her because there are aspects of her that I love and because I want to provide a stable home for my daughter who I (unfortunately) had before I was married.
Recently (the past year or so) my wife has become more unwilling to participate in my faith. I invite her to church with my daughter and I but she does not want to go. My daughter, graciously, enjoys going to church with me and prays with me nightly. My daughter is gaining a good sense of the faith her Daddy practices. THIS IS WHERE IT GETS TRICKY and scary for me. My daughter is beginning to ask me what mommy believes in. I do not lie, and tell her that she can talk to her mom about what she believes and also tell her that she does not believe (in simple terms). But I am worried that having a wife that thinks it is okay to non believe will influence the faith I am trying to share and portray for my daughter.
I remember how important it was for me at a young age to have great Catholic role models who embodied and were sincerely devoted to the Catholic Faith. I want to try and be that for my daughter but fear I have already failed by marrying her mom, a non Catholic. To complicate things further our marriage is not very good. She is going through difficult times with a transition to a new job, is having self image and eating difficulties. I am trying to be supportive and have talked to her about what I can do to help her but she says nothing. She is currently going to a counselor to help her. Our marriage is rough and I am grappling with negative thoughts of separating from her.
ANYONE out there go through a similar situation or have any advice?