My husband and I were married in January and since then have faced a number of financial struggles. Our car has needed major repairs such that we aren't sure we can afford it anymore, and my husband's medical school application process was also quite expensive. To top it off, straight out of graduating college I faced months of unemployment. I was employed for a short few months after our wedding, and am now unemployed again, leaving us budgeting out our remaining savings to stretch from now until August (when my husband will receive loan money for medical school, and before which we will be relocating to a new, expensive city.) In short, we are very poor.
Funny enough, that is not our issue! (Or, I don't think so.) I feel very blessed and continually feel God's mercy and love, despite that we don't have many "things" or that we don't have much savings. I trust in God's plan, whatever that may be. Yes, it is difficult because I badly wish I could find employment. But I am only human, and God is greater than I. My husband's attitude about God and our finances could not be more different. He is constantly stressed, angry, and does not trust God to provide. He does not see our many blessings (having a roof over our heads and food to eat, and the love of a caring God.) Instead, he has outbursts over "how little" we have and how we've spent "all of our savings" this year. When I explain that, yes, we have little but we are still blessed and that, yes, we spent a lot of our savings (getting married, graduating, applying to medical school, car troubles, life is expensive!) but that God gives and takes away as he sees fit and WILL provide all we truly need, he gets even angrier. As he sees it, he "earned" the money we have, God did not provide it. He does not think God has anything to do with money.
I've instructed him to pray, to deepen his relationship with God, and to appreciate all he has. I know there is a lesson he needs to learn in this struggle, one that he is fighting. It is so hard for me to see him be ungrateful and angry and unappreciative in this, as he is normally good and loving. It is hard for me to see him struggle and not offer it up to God. It is hard, too, because he resents me for insisting that we still tithe. I deeply believe that all we have is God's, and so I don't feel the pinch as much as he does when I see the dollars go into the coffer. But, this is also an issue for him.
Background: he grew up in a VERY stable, comfortable home, one where money was never a problem. His mother was always able to stay home with the children, and all kids were sent to elite private schools. He now is in his senior year at Notre Dame, and his lifestyle has been provided for by his parents (he didn't have to pay his way through school.) My background is a little different: my mother was extremely poor when I was born, and my father was not in the picture. We received help from the Church food bank at times, and money was always very tight. My mom eventually worked her way to become a financially successful nurse, but is constantly giving praise to God for all her blessings, for seeing her through her financial troubles. She has tithed my entire life, never short-changing God although at times she worried about paying the rent.
Does anyone have any advice/resources/ways for me to reach out to my husband? He laughs when I say "how blessed we are!" and "we'll get through this. God will provide." How can I get him to worry less, and trust more? Maybe another pair of eyes will help me to figure out our mess.
p.s. I do pray diligently to God about this issue, but any specific prayers or saints to intercede would also be helpful.