Hi Water - I’ll try to share some my thoughts about patience and why I think possibly and perhaps Paul mentions patience first.
First EpistlePaul Corinthians
1 If I speak with the tongues of men, and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal. 2 And if I should have prophecy and should know all mysteries, and all knowledge, and if I should have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing. 3 And if I should distribute all my goods to feed the poor, and if I should deliver my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing. 4
[quote]Charity is patient, is kind: charity envieth not, dealeth not perversely; is not puffed up; 5
Is not ambitious, seeketh not her own, is not provoked to anger, thinketh no evil; 6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth with the truth; 7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. 8 Charity never falleth away: whether prophecies shall be made void, or tongues shall cease, or knowledge shall be destroyed. 9 For we know in part, and we prophesy in part. 10 But when that which is perfect is come, that which is in part shall be done away.
St. Albert tells us that common sense is the guide of all the virtues and that humility is their foundation. Next, I would put patience. We need to learn patience with ourselves and also patience with The Lord when things just don’t go as we think they should
6 Seek ye the Lord, while he may be found: call upon him, while he is near. 7 Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unjust man his thoughts, and let him return to the Lord, and he will have mercy on him, and to our God: for he is bountiful to forgive.
For my thoughts are not your thoughts: nor your ways my ways, saith the Lord. 9 For as the heavens are exalted above the earth, so are my ways exalted above your ways, and my thoughts above your thoughts. 10 And as the rain and the snow come down from heaven, and return no more thither, but soak the earth, and water it, and make it to spring, and give seed to the sower, and bread to the eater: 11 So shall my word be, which shall go forth from my mouth: it shall not return to me void, but it shall do whatsoever I please, and shall prosper in the things for which I sent it. 12 For you shall go out with joy, and be led forth with peace: the mountains and the hills shall sing praise before yen, and all the trees of the country shall clap their hands. 13 Instead of the shrub, shall come up the fir tree, and instead of the nettle, shall come up the myrtle tree: and the Lord shall be named for an everlasting sign, that shall not be taken away.
Aware of sins, faults and failings and struggle though we may, we just cannot overcome them. We need to be patient with it all and know that if The Lord willed it, our sins, faults and failings and all our struggles small and great would vanish in an instant. We need to place great trust and confidence in God’s Divine Providence and that He desires our sanctification far more than we do. We need to be patient when all our concepts of what holiness is about, we just cannot implement though we pray and try and try and try. Again, we need to patiently understand that The Lord does not think , nor work, as we do. As in Isiah above:
"13 Instead of the shrub, shall come up the fir tree, and instead of the nettle, shall come up the myrtle tree: "
Our concepts and hopes and dreams aspirations can be nothing but shrubs and nettles though we may think they are wondrous and important and the only way to go. Shrubs and fir trees are totally different as are nettles and myrtle trees. The Lord does not think nor act as we perhaps think should be effected.
How I began to try to learn exterior and interior patience was through not having a car and having to wait for buses in all weather sometimes for a long time and I HATE TO WAIT on bus stops and in a que etc. So I started to strive to be patient and not grumble and groan, not even inwardly. I find that suddenly I am aware I am inwardly moaning and then I deflect those thoughts to something else. I have oesteoarthritis and a back injury and at the moment my right knee is in trouble (saw the doc today) and painful and makes walking painful, and I have to walk or bus it everywhere. So with the painful walking, I imagine and ponder Jesus when He carried His Cross and with what patience He carried it though in shocking pain -overwhelmingly more pain than I have every know nor probably every will. This is not only striving to be patient with the fact of pain, but implementing what St. Teresa of Avila advised: “make a virtue of necessity”. Not having a vehicle I have to walk everywhere (necessity) so I strive to make a virtue of it by bringing to mind the Passion and the cruel walk of The Lord to Calvary and an even more cruel - one of the most cruel in fact - quite slow and agonizing death.
Is that too much, Water, or too little? Others, and you, may have important thoughts to share too. I still have my LPlates on, meaning I am still very much a learner, a novice, a beginner. Blessings and my regards - Barb:)