The religious life is a refuge, the externals are attractive, and it is an escape. It is only those things, however, for the people who are called to it (by God- not by those things). If you go to the religious life simply because you are looking for a refuge, it will just make you bored- and you’ll just be frustrated because religious life is not for those who want to run away and hide. If you go to the religious life simply because the externals are attractive, in a short time, the newness of it all will wear off, you will long for something that seems more attractive, and you become excessively critical because nothing is as perfect as it may seem at first. If you go to the religious life as an escape from a less-than-ideal current situation, it may seem great at first- but eventually you’ll just find a new set of problems.