I am single and 41. I have struggle for a long time with thinking I was inferior for being single. After years of praying, I have come to a place where I do understand my worth as a person has nothing to do with my marital status. I have created a life for myself where I am busy with hobbies and the occasional volunteer work. Having friends my age is a bit more of a problem becausee constantly being around other peoples children does get on my nerves.
Also, my family is scattered all over Canada so to me, cousins, aunts and uncles have always been people you see once a year at best.
At my dad's funeral, last week, I saw a lot of relatives. Some younger than me who introduced me to their spouses and others talking about all the upcoming marriages of my cousins kids. And I felt a twinge of being left out. It was as if all the hard work I have done at accepting God's will for me was gone down the drain.
Now I don't think the solution is to avoid family gatherings. However, since family gatherings are so rare, it is harder to come to terms with the fact I am single around them.
Let me give you an example. If I join a new club, in getting to know me, people may ask if I have kids or am married. After the initial akwardness, it settles down and I get on with getting to know people. Of course there is always one or two 'you know whats' that won't let it go but that is with everything in life.
However, when I only see these people rarely, the initial akwardness happens everytime and there is no getting past it
Just curious but how do others deal with it?