Greetings all. I have been a "lurker" for some time, but a recent family issue has caused me to register and make this post. I apologize in advance if it is not in the proper forum for this type of question.
I am third of a family of six children. The youngest two are twin girls and both 25 years old. Sister "A" considers herself to be an atheist, and frequently will post inflammatory rhetoric in public places such as Facebook (and elsewhere). Additionally, she uses very effusive language in front of family and friends at family gatherings...as if she doesn't care who she offends. She has a little boy and other than her lack of faith, she isn't a "bad" person. Her son is taken care of and she is responsible.
Sister "B" (her twin), gave birth to a baby just two weeks ago. I would consider Sister "B" a pretty devout Catholic. However, in the time leading up to this birth, Sister "A" openly asked if she could be the Godmother on multiple occasions.. The thought of this is driving me absolutely nuts, considering how openly she mocks the rest of us. Additionally, I think being a Godparent is an honor to be selected for and not necessarily something one should ask for as if campaigning for public office.
For as highly as I think of B's faith, it seems that she IS considering making "A" the godmother. There is a bond between twins that I may never understand and I think it's this bond that is making it difficult for her to say no, even in spite of the atheism issue.
Is a baptism even legitimate in the eyes of God under these circumstances? I feel like I should say something to B. I legitimately fear for the little guy's upbringing and feel that there are many more suitable people that could be chosen. Isn't it a pre-requisite of God-parenting that you be of the faith?
It's sad to say this, but if she allows this to happen I would struggle to even attend. I don't want to cause a rift in the family by any means, but it feels like I should intervene somehow, even if it's not my decision in the end.
Anybody who could provide insights from an apologetics POV or just a personal suggestion would be appreciated.
Thanks in advance for your time and consideration.