So, I recently spoke to my best friend. We’ve known each other for about 10 years now, been buddies since the first day we met. He has always been a bit of a casual Catholic, going to Church at Christmas, maybe once or twice at other times.
Anyway, here’s the story.
The girl he is dating… I’ll make this short, and try be as PG as possible.
They met in the last year of High School. They started sleeping together while she had a boyfriend (dated for 2 years). They slept together as a secretive couple until the end of High School, where she finally broke up with her boyfriend and started dating my friend. Not a good start to begin with considering the whole thing was an ‘affair’.
Anyway, they have been dating now for about 3 years. It never bothered me before, 1 because I never particularly liked this girl, and 2 because I wasn’t aware or interested of theology of the body etc until a few months ago. But here’s where I have problems:
- They sleep together all the time. All the time.
- He has admitted that he has absolutely no intention of ever marrying her
- He once said he contemplated breaking up with her, but didn’t because he knew he would only go out and have sex with lots of strangers because he loves sex so much, and he didn’t want to do that to himself.
- She is very much in love with him (I say ‘in love’ in the secular way, it isnt true love really) and yet see point 2.
I hate to see my best friend actually treating a girl like this, and I hate to see him get involved in sex before marriage in such a… dirty… way. I don’t know how to approach him or what to say.
I know he will call me a hypocrite bearing in mind history with my ex girlfriend (which I completely regret, and admit as much, confessed, cried about, the whole shebang). But he also has a lot of pride. Lots and lots of it.
It just hurts me to see what I hate so much being done by my best buddy, who is otherwise a stand up guy. Deans list, top sportsmen, respected, you know?