If the Church tells people that they are living in a mortal sin because a man has a second wife, (and the Church will not give them communion) but also tells them to bring up their children in the Christian manner, why would the couple even remain in the Church? Anotherwords if the Church is saying that two individuals are living in sin and the individuals refuse to not leave one another (like one day just get up and say "sorry honey, I have made mistakes in the past and so now I must leave you and the kids otherwise I’ll go to hell. So the kids will not have a dad in the house as they grow up even though I would never make the same mistake again, but I must leave) and so if they die in that state, they’re dammed.
Would they be dammed or are they dammed? The catechism states “they are NOT seperated from the Church” but goes on to say that they cannot recieve communion or participate in the clergy in any way, but must live the christian life and bring up their children in the christian way. But even when they do this is the Church saying they are still dammed? If so then what the heck would people hang around in a Church to just await dammnation? I would imagine they would leave and NOT believe in the Catholic Church anymore. But the Catechism says they are NOT seperated so does that mean they are not dammed?
What frustrates me is that say a Catholic gets married to another Catholic and down the road the wife leaves him and they divorce. The man eventuly loses his faith but marries another woman and with her has kids. Then let’s say years later he has Faith once again but is now in a dilema because the Church says he is in an adulterous state. What is he to do, leave the woman he is with now along with his children? How is that GOOD? Divorce is absoluetly HORRIBLE! But what is better, realize he made a mistake but now will live with it and be faithful to the woman he is with now who actualy loves (and will remain to love him all of her life) him and he her, or to leave the new family because of his once wife who at one time loved him, but became lustful and pridful so she left him. Should he ruion his new family because of that? Or is he going to hell unless he just pops up and leaves? That bothers me and it’s very frustrating. And I am saying that the man is TRULY sorry for the mistakes he made and vows to never make simular ones again but stays to take care of his new family.