One of the ushers at my parish has a crush on me and it makes me feel uncomfortable. He is a very nice person, but he flirts with me and it makes me feel awkward. He often comments on my appearance and tells me that he wishes I were single.
I don’t like this kind of attention at all. I always know when a man is attracted to me and I appreciate it much more when a man treats me with respect and doesn’t make any comments about the attraction (because I am married with children).
Two years ago, I gave this man my email. My husband has also met him and thinks that he is very nice. This man emails me pictures of church events, so I feel more included (since I can never go due to motherly committments). Every now and then, he calls me “darling” and it makes me shiver.
How do I handle this? This man is a very nice person and I gather that he’s lonely and wishes that he were in-love with someone. I don’t want to hurt him.