My wife (an Army Soldier on her first deployment) deployed last August to the a Marine Corps Camp in Iraq. We married in May. last year. I too was a Soldier and spent 23 years before I retired in November of 2008 and took a civil service job with Department of the Army at our local Army base. Since her deployment to the war-torn theater, she tell me that she has “re-discovered” herself. She has not really explained any of the this to me, I have noticed that she has grown more and more hostile towards me. I am also aware of Marine Corps troops spending more and more time with her alone in her workspaces. Slowly she has cut off communication with me back at home. Early in the deployment she would call home at least once a month. We would spend some of her “downtime” on the webcam together. I would sit on the livingroom floor with our family pets and I really enjoyed seeing her and interacting with her. Well, my birthday came and went without word. Christmas came and went without word, our first anniversary came and went… without word. Then the fearful happened. She emailed me a very long email explaining how wrong our marriage is to her and that she made a mistake in haste. Please understand that we had been together for 7 years prior to agreeing to marry. Attached to the email is her “Petition for Dissolution” of our marriage. I am not in favor of this as we made a covenant with God. “In sickness, and in health” we said. Right now our marriage is “sick” and we need help. So far she has refused all counsel in God. She did, at my request go see an Army Chaplain but did not bring our strife before God. She spoke to the Chaplain as a Soldier to a counsellor and did not recieve “God’s words”.
Recently, since signing onto this site and recieving your prayers, I believe that the Holy Spirit has started to move her. She has recently agreed not to proceed with the divorce until she arrives back home. That gives a little more time for God to turn her back on the right path. I pray that all I have done that has added to her strife in life is forgiven and that we both turn to the Lord Jesus and give unto him, our lives. I pray that we regain that love we once had and that is be even stonger than before. I pray that seh let go of the anger that has festered in her. I pray that the evil voices of temptation are quieted and she hear the Spirit of God. I pray for her safe and health return to this world where together we can show her that she is loved in Christ still and forever. I need help. Please keep us in your prayers that this marriage will survive and we will find the true path.