I am not catholic, but I am starting the RCIA process in September. My fiance and I have lived together for 3 years and have planned on marrying for a long time. He has been a Wiccan for many years and will not change. He has been absolutely wonderful about my change of heart. He has agreed to abstain from sex until marriage, use NFP after marriage, and to allow me to baptize any children we might have and raise them as Catholic. He is a wonderful man, a good and moral man who is strong in his beliefs. Although the combination of religions would not work for most, we are strong in our respect for one another’s beliefs. Most importantly, I feel strongly that God is calling me to marry this man, and has been calling me to this even before I acknowledged Him in my life.
(Wicca is not the religion many think it to be- there is no devil worshipping, and wiccans are not allowed to hex people or cast spells on them that will interfere with their free will- the primary tenent of the belief is do no harm to others- it is the worship of a god and godess and a reverence for nature)
Anyhow, all that background aside, my questions are about the technical process of getting married in the church. Our wedding date is set for next May (a year from tomorrow). However, I’m wondering if we would be given a dispensation or if we would be denied because he is a Wiccan. I’m wondering if it would be easier to get married in a small civil ceremony now (while neither of us is Catholic) and then get our marriage convalidated in the church when I finish the conversion process. My fiance is willing to take the Pre-Cana classes with me. I don’t want to put our wedding off for 6 months after I’m initiated however, so I also want to know if the church would grant me a ceremony so soon after converting, and if I would be allowed to take pre-cana classes before I’ve converted when my fiance is a Wiccan anyhow.
I hope you can help me, or if not, tell me where I could direct this question. (this is my first post on this board!) I’m nervous to approach the Pastor of the church I attend- the church is large, so I’ve never really ‘met’ him and I wouldn’t want to start off with talking about my engagement to a Wiccan.